Wedding gift office etiquette?

I can understand your hurt about them not acknowledging your Mother-in-Law's death. Office things are tricky sometimes, and often they don't work out too evenly or fairly. You can bet that when your Mother- in -Law died, there was some talk about what to do. For whatever reason, nothing was done- and that was the wrong choice. It could be that they felt awkward about such a sad situation, and weren't sure what to do.

At any rate, now there is a celebration happening for a coworker who has significant ties to the office- both she and her daughter have worked there. Despite you not having ties to the Bride, there are others who do, and undoubtedly it is one of them who started the contribution idea. They should have thought about it first, realizing that not everyone in the office worked with the Bride, or even knows her. But like it or not, if you don't contribute, you will look bad. Worse yet, somebody may remember that nothing was done when your Mother-in-Law died, and now you are taking it out on this unsuspecting Bride. It's not fair. I'm totally on your side.

But maybe there's hope- it sounds like the "envelope woman" has gone around the office once, and you somehow avoided the situation. You could just wait it out, and hope she doesn't come back. Maybe somebody clued her in that not everybody in the office should be expected to contribute. Or, if you have the courage, you could say "Gee, Amanda, I haven't been here long enough to have gotten to work with Jennifer. I feel awkward contributing for a gift to someone I have never met." She may just say that's fine, and that she didn't want to leave you out of the group.

It's a dicy situation. The easier thing to do would be to give some money. You could just give $10 instead of 20, to make it less painful.

I'm sympathetic to your plight. Working in an office with a bunch of women isn't for sissies.

I could ship out a letter or electronic mail to all those who in which invited and provide an explanation for what occurred... Most instances folks will reply to this and ask if their reward was once got. Make certain she sends out thank yous for the items she did acquire.. this may occasionally support avert any needless cellphone calls. This is horrible.. and it breaks my center to look folks do that.. I do not fully grasp folks commonly.. I as soon as attended a marriage ceremony in which the cardboard field was once stolen and not anything was once ever stuck on digicam or no witnesses.. They had over three hundred visitors and has simply purchases a residence. It's simply unhappy commonly... Tell her I'm sorry this occurred.. I desire matters determine!