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The Religious and Boundaries?

I believe that non-religious people get so up in arms when religious people try to convert them because it's a violation of their personal boundaries. Remember- non-religious people value their beliefs and their selves just as much as religious people value theirs.

When religious people tell them to cast off that which they value and find important and take on the religious person's values instead, it's akin to telling the non-religious person that the religious one is superior and that they are wrong. Of course this causes hostility!

We all have boundaries- religious and otherwise, and when religious people disregard and/or disrespect the values of a non-religious person, they cross the line.

So I ask you all this: How can religious people speak with non-religious people without disrespecting or dismissing what is valuable to them without compromising what the religious person believes is valuable to them? Can a _mutually_ respectful conversation between a religious person and a non-religious person take place?

Update:

Heaven bound.- I think you mean me when you say "What are the non religious doing in a religion and spirituality forum then". If you do, then remember that I never said whether or not I was religious. I'm carefully _not_ saying either way, because I'm looking for an unbiased opinion from both sides.

Also, when I say "religious", I don't necessarily mean the bible.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    First, to heaven bound: this section isn't for "sharing God's word." This isn't your personal witnessing ground. This is a question and answer forum for all people to discuss religion and spirituality, whether they believe or not.

    Second, as long as there are people who think like the above, there can be no mutually respectful dialogue. The fact that one party thinks that trampling all over someone else's boundaries is "just sharing" precludes any possibility of dialogue. Unless both sides are willing to admit that what the other party believes and feels is just as real and valid and precious as what they believe and feel themselves, there can be no peace, and there can be no respect.

    But let's be pragmatic: some people aren't looking for respect or peace. Some have said it on this forum: they are here to spread the word. In this very thread: "there are no boundaries." If someone else gets hurt, oh well. The mentality is,"you can't make an omelette with breaking a few eggs."

  • 1 decade ago

    Non religious people aren't against having a conversation, just against religious people trying to convert them and thinking that we need to be "saved". There is a huge difference between having a conversation about ones beliefs with someone and trying to convert them and tell them they are wrong, which is what lots of religious people do. Having that understanding that what you believe is not the truth for everyone and we all do not have to accept it is major and I feel as thought religious people don't truly get that their religion isn't right for everyone and always feels as though they need to "save" people and tell them what is right even though the person they are talking to CLEARLY has a mind of their own and beliefs of their own that are RIGHT for them.

    Like I can't stand when people tell me they will pray for me so that I will one day be a believer...that makes me so angry. Don't pray for me to believe in your religion...if I wanted to believe I would, but I choose not to.

  • Jay Z
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.

    For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.

    -John 3:19,20

    Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword.

    -Matthew 10:34

  • 1 decade ago

    I almost expect the religious to proselytize, it shows that they're honest in their belief and think that they are trying to help. So long as they don't mind a little pro-science talk, I'll listen to what they have to say as long as it isn't blatantly offensive or something (e.g., "Convert or you'll go to hell!/You're gay, that's a sin!/I like pancakes.")

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    What are the non religious doing in a religion and spirituality forum then. Sharing God's word is not trying to conform anyone. It's is just sharing. And there are no boundaries when God tells us to reach all of the North south east and west with His Word.

  • Lauren
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    I am a christian and have found that by sharing your experiences, thanking God, letting the person know you are praying for them, and just living a Godly lifestyle that they will see the difference. If you make yourself known to be different and they see the happiness and love in your words and actions they will begin to see...

  • 1 decade ago

    It's all about mutual respect. It's hard to find people that view all aspects of religion as separate but equal, they mostly view their own religion as superior and all others as false.

  • star
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    u are right and no1 should be forced to convert to any religion if he does'nt want's to . religious people can do so by keeping humanity a first priority .

  • 1 decade ago

    I never discuss religion unless asked a question about it. If you are not going to accept my answer, then dont ask. I will assure you, I will never ask you about yours since it makes no difference to me whatsoever what you believe.

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