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Advice on mother's problem...?

My mom is 40 years old. But she does not act like it at all. She smokes pot. I don't usually care about that, because it is a you can do it, just not around me kind of thing. But she spends ALL of her boyfriends money on her habit, plus I think she is onto cocaine. She drinks very heavily. SHE HAS A SEVEN YEAR OLD IN THE HOUSE.

Now, I am on my own and married. However, not only is the seven year old my half brother, but two weeks ago she was found with non-prescribed medication, she drank, and took her boyfriends work truck and wrecked it, almost killing the seven year old as well as one of her other side boyfriends. She resisted arrest and got pepper sprayed as well. All of her counts are: DUI, Child endangerment, Driving intoxicated with child in Vehicle, Resisting arrest and driving without a license.

I had enough when I was 17 and moved out, with her drama. However this new level is very serious. Her court date is coming up in two weeks, and my husband refferred the possiblity of recommended mental and drug rehabilitation to the judge by me, as the situation calls, I am the only one who can do it, besides her husband who is not responding to any of this. This may be my only chance to get her some real help. But I don't want more drama than neccesary, and I don't want to get to into the situation if it may be over my head. What should I do? I am almost 19, about to go into the military and trying to get my life started. What would you do????

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  • 1 decade ago
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    The only person that can help your mom is your mom. You can make recommendations for counciling, but she won't quit until she's ready. Just do what you can to make sure the child is safe. If it's safe with your stepdad (i'm assuming), then everything will be ok. If other arrangements are to be made, well, help figure it out.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    The first thing you should do is try and face to face confrontation. Tell her how she's scarring and ruining not only her like, but her sons. Some of his earlier memories will probably be of her intoxicated or high -- which isn't what a child should have.

    A lot of times, with some people with this problem, this doesn't work. Submit her to rehab or a help group.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I would tell hubby I've had enough of this mess that I didn't help create and if I show up in court, I'm going to recommend to the judge that she be thrown in jail and the father of that 7 year old needs to take care of his son. I'd also tell hubby if he wants to worry about her, go right ahead but I have a life to live without all this dramatic bullshit from others.

  • Meggie
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Sorry for what ur going though but she is still your mother no matter what,so just talk to a lawyer and knwo how you can help your mum,also know that your step brother need your help and he can be in danger with your mum,.

    Be strong ,.

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