How do i convince my girlfriend that losing her virginity isn't as bad as she thinks?

If you are in a state of feeling that you need to "convince" her of anything that she isn't ready to do then you are absolutely playing the wrong game. Give her space and time and let her be ready when she is ready. The interesting paradox is that if this is the case and you stop pressuring her and show her that "giving in" is not a condition to retain your love then she will almost assuredly comply on her own.

On the other hand, if it is clear that she is wanting to move forward and is merely scared then I would ask her what she needs to feel more comfortable. Again, show her that what is important to you is her comfort, security and feeling loved and cherished and that that is your motivation for wanting to to go all the way... rather than just getting what "all men" are after.

Do something insanely romantic and sensual for her... give her a bath with a salt scrub. Create an array of essential oils and anoint her body. Put a blindfold on her and tickle her body all over with various types of imaginative things (while never taking your clothes off at all... it's all about service to her -- at least in this case for earning her trust).

BTW, I also get that she is very intimidated by the fact that she's not the first... you might explore that as well. She may be afraid of putting herself in the position of being compared to another in that manner and for that reason is apprehensive about going there at all.

Even though you love her and she loves you sometimes it is normal for a person to be in the situation she is in right now

She just needs more time

Don't pressure her to do it because that is wrong

If she said she wants to do it then make her feel secure and safe around you and let her know how much she means to you

how do you know how painful it is for a girl to lose her virginity? Don't pressure her into something she obviously isn't really ready to do. If you love her and respect her, you will let her make this decision on her own.

Well if she isn't ready then there is no way you can convince her to lose it. When she is good and ready then she will let you know. Just wait it out till she knows that she is ready.

okaii...

so, if yuu think tht she really wants this but she.s just holding back because she.s scared, then keep reassuring her tht it.s really not that bad[take it frm me, it.s not tht totally horrible. and there wnt be alot of blood.], and that yuu love her, and that this is something yuu want to share with her. however, dnt tlk about it too frequently and dnt try to incesively convice her becuz she mite feel pressured.

but, if she.s acting really scared, and she repeatedly tells yuu she doesn.t want to, then maybe she.s just not ready yet. give it time and leave it alone for awhile, wen she.s ready she.ll let yuu kno.

respect her and be patient man... empty your own sacks for a while

don't push her into anything she's not ready for, it's horrible when guys do that... it was done to me and I've regretted it every day for the 11 years since

She sounds like she isnt ready, dont try to convince her. Just let her know that the ball is in her court, and when she is ready, that you will go slow and be considerate.

Your Answer:

You have to wait for her to be ready. Convincing her will just be seen after wards as you pushing her into it. When she is ready, she will be ready. She knows what she is doing. She knows that it doesn't always hurt or cause bleeding, she just isn't ready.

Throw her the remote and tell her to change to any channel, but preferably MTV. It usually works.

I love MTV.

Oh, and tell her is she really loved you, she wouldn't hesitate to put out, yo -- you know, by giving her that one 'gift' that doesn't belong to her husband, yo.

If you love her and never want to hurt her than do not pressure her into it!