Need advice dealing with 6 year old future stepson and our future family...?

Hello! I think when it comes to relationships involving children it is really important to take things slowly and really get to know each other before getting married. Imagine how much easier it will be for the child to accept if he has time to get used to you because I'm sure once he does he'll love you. Maybe spend some time alone with him when you can (playing in the yard, reading a book, taking a walk, whatever!) As far as resenting him for taking your husbands time, think only about the child and how very important that time is for him. You have to put yourself aside in this situation. But You're on here looking for a way to avoid it so I think you will do just fine! Best wishes and God's Blessings!!!

Good for you being so optimistic. First off: learn the difference between their and they're. Congrats on your answer tally. Advice: Never smoke a cigarette. Do not smoke. It is a waste of money, will wreck your health and is just not cool. If you have a passion for a career and have had advice and experience it what that career will be like and mean to you then you should go on to tertiary education and study. If not, it is totally okay to take a few years, get some crap job, experience the world, maybe travel and find out who you are and what your desires are before you fork out thousands of dollars for qualifications. Life experience counts for a lot. Once you know (or feel you know) who you are then in relations his you should absolutely not settle for less than you deserve. I don't mean this in terms of looks, but how a person cares for you, shares their knowledge, makes you laugh and makes you feel good about yourself. When you have a heated debate or all out fight with somebody and want to hold a grudge for the rest of your life; ask yourself whether you think you will remember this in a month's time or whether it will have an effect on the rest of your life. If not, let it go. It's not worth hanging on to. It can be a lengthy lesson but you will save yourself an ulcer and high blood pressure. I sincerely wish you the best in life and I wish I had the Internet to ask this kind of question when I was young.

If you and the son get along great then getting married should not be a big deal. Ya'll should definitely have children if that is what ya'll want.If your boyfriend loves you then he will not play favorites. You on the other hand might because you see your child more especially if it is your first. I think if you can deal with time away from your husband now then in the future it should be no different. You should not care what his ex-girlfriend thinks she is not in the picture when it comes to you and him only when it deals with your son. My sister is somewhat in the same situation and so am I.