how to survive being cheated on?

kick him in the stones and leave

file for child support

He's not interested in staying with you. He doesn't care how is actions hurt you so deeply, all he cared about is that he got caught and that you snooped around on him. That's the classic response of a man who cares only about himself. Do your son a favor, don't trash him or talk bad about him, if this guy is his father, let him make his own judgement about his dad and what he did. You will still have to see him in the future because you have a child and you can't deny your son the right of seeing his dad. But really, you should get a divorce because this man does not give a damn about you. All the therapy and counseling in the world won't change that. He is just selfish.

I found out the same thing in January and for six months I've been trying to forgive and it's the hardest thing I've ever done. NO ONE can tell you what to do because they are not in your shoes. One thing that helped me is that he has remorse, admits the pain he caused me, promises to never do it again and gave me all the passwords to EVERYTHING. Even all that and sometimes it is not enough and I can't get the image of him naked with another woman out of my head. I feel for you girl, it hurts, don't let it damage your self esteem, it's not your fault, it's not about you, it is his problem. He is making an immature, irresponsible and inconsiderate CHOICE to do something that you know he would not accept you doing to him. There are two choices 1) Either forgive, and keep loving and let go 2) Don't forgive, stop loving him and let go. I hope your heart heals.

Well. He showed no remorse, and you're the only one working on it. It's time to leave this guy behind. You aren't the one that wrecked the family, he is. He needs to take responsibility for that. He doesn't respect you, or the family. He constantly betrays you, and lies to you. Why would you even want to stay with someone who doesn't even feel guilty for treating you badly? A relationship is based on trust, communication, and respect. You have NONE of those things. Move on. There is someone better out there for you.

first of all if he is not willing to help to maintain the realtionship as much as you are then bottomline he's not worth it. try talking to him if you can ask him why. dont get all mean about it and just remain calm. guys USUALLY cheat because they are missing something from the relationship just like in the movie Tyler Perry's Why Did I Get Married, the 20/80 plan just figure out what's missing and is it something you have control over or you can change if its not see if there is an alternative to the problem but if he just cheated because he was interested in other girls then he's not worth it.

It's time to leave. You've got to show your husband that you won't put up with this, and the only way he'll take you seriously is if you show him just how serious you really are. It's great that you guys are trying to work on your marriage but it sounds like one of you is working harder then the other. Give him some time alone to really think about his life without you and his son. He needs a reality check and it's up to you to give it to him.

You are not married to him, hence he really does not have any real commitment towards you. He does have a commitment towards his son though. Personally, I would not stay with him. He has shown you that he is not husband material. It's hard enough when one is already in a marriage, but he has now shown you his character.

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http://www.marriagedivorce.com/

http://www.cpr-ministries.org/

http://talkback.spiritofhosea.com/index.php

re: i was trying so hard to work things out between us for us and for our son.

>>>>best thing you could ever do for your son, IF YOU TRUELY CARE, is to go find your son a respectable, honorable dad/role model to teach your son how to be a good man/dad.

I stopped reading at:

"boyfriend has been cheating"

Dump him.

It's easier and cheaper now than in the long run.

Dump him and find someone that will treat u right