Is the any other way to deal with this?

you poor thing...

why did he not tell you??

anyway, if you can deal with deceit,and stay with your husband...remember its an innocent child,and you must accept it

good luck x

Whatever happens, if you stay with your husband you are going to have to accept the child - and remember that it isn't the child's fault. Did you know that he had cheated, or has that also come as a shock? It's a very difficult situation. If you stay then before long you would have to explain to your own child just who the boy is, and you would also have some explaining to do to your friends and relatives. And if your husband sees the child regularly then you have to accept that your husband will have some contact with the boy's mother. Do you think that you will ever trust your husband, or has his deceit shattered everything? You have a very big decision to make and I really don't envy you. Good luck for the future.

Knowing is always better. Having said that, every child is innocent and not involved in the choices of his or her parents before his or her birth. Your problem is with your husband, not his child/ren.

Were you married at the time and would reasonably expect him to be exclusive to you? I can only say that it is something in the past. Is that something you are willing to work through? Do you believe you marriage is worth saving?

No, your life will never be the same, but the difference is up to you. Your husband has a lot of explaining to do. You must expect and accept nothing less than complete and utter honesty. Trust will be an issue, but it can be regained if you allow it.

On another note: Being from a broken home myself, I would encourage you to never speak badly about your husband in front of your daughter. I am a daddy's girl, and there is no good that can come from parents bad mouthing eachother in front of or to their children.

Well, ok. Im going to assume he cheated. Have a serious comversation with him. Ask him why he cheated and see if you cant work through it. It was quiet a while ago. As for the child, accept him. Its not his fault at all. Encourage your husband to spend time with him. I know it will be very hard, but its the best the for the boy. You wouldnt want your daughter growing up without her father would you? Once he starts coming around, youll fall in love with him. How could you not? He is an innocent child and is part of your husband. Good luck.

im guessing that he cheated.

you can accept the child, after all its not the kids fault.

talk to your husband and find out why he cheated and if he still does etc. normal if somebody cheats you should break up but you have kids involved now so you have to work it out. or go through the hard time with a divorce.

good luck with whatever you do. you will do whats right :)

is the child from a previous relationship? if so ask why he hid the fact from you. Does the childs mother know? Has he kept in contact? The main thing here is communication. you really need to add more detail before we can help, sorry

Whatever you do don,t take it out on the kid as it was not his fault this happened. You must talk to him ( your husband) hear his excuses or reasons and see where you go from here.whatever things will never be the same.

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