I'm a man married to another man in midwestern United States. Do you have a problem with me?

as long as you don't call it marriage I have no problem.....marriage is a man and a woman

I am happy for you. if you think you are gay because it is what you are ... then so be it. I have no problem with that as long as it does not impose on my life. What you do in your private life is non of my business. I knew a couple of very respectable men who were gay and living together. One a lawyer the other a doctor. They were nor flamboyant, nor loud obnoxious, nor did they HAVE to show or mention the fact that they were gay. It was as they put it: their way of life and nobody business to know or to be reminded of it.

I wish that was the case with gay and lesbians today who think for some reason that they HAVE to advertise it for all to know and do it in a way that is disturbing to say the least.

What i have a problem with is the term "marriage"

If you want a civil union? be my guest. if you want something that resemble to a marriage license be my guest. but do NOT call it marriage. it is an institution. It is as if you painted the White House purple and called it the Purple House. Sorry ... it just doesn't work.

This has nothing to do with religion or conservatism. it is only because we exist thanks to our past and our history. Altering all the main institutions that makes us who we are would be like questioning how we are conceived. Certain things need not be altered.

Find it a name or a solution. Look at France, they came up with the PACS. It is a contract signed between two adults of any sex that organizes their living together before, during and after. it is a "union" that acts the same as a regular marriage license and gives the couple the same exact rights and laws as a married couple.

PS: here is the funny thing about this issue.

If you are full blown against it you are given the thumb down and called homophobic.

If you call gay names you ARE homophobic and get thumb down

If you remotely approve of the issue on a sympathetic way you are called homophobic and thumb down again.

Even when like myself you validate the right to a union, respect the desires of gays and express facts ... you are STILL called homophobic.

Here is the problem with gay & lesbians issue on Marriage, you either HAVE to agree with them and give them what they want "marriage" or else you are against them. They want no compromise, they want listen to no reason, and they want just what they want ... and THAT is why they will not get anything. Sometimes a small victory is better than a bigger one. because win it all and it will create a group of opposition that will never sleep until they have their way ... compromise and both parties are happy and the issue is resolved.

personally? no. I think where a lot of people get uncomfortable is you calling it a marriage. Most people, myself included, would consider a marriage being between people of opposite sexes.

Don't get me wrong, I'm all for gay people who pledge their lives to each other having exactly the same rights under law, or otherwise, as the rest of us, but I respectfully disagree calling it a marriage. As has been stated previously... marriage is an institution, an ingrained part of this country's fabric. To fundamentally alter its definition I don't believe is necessary to achieve the end result: equal rights.

I know this was posted 5 years ago so my message may never be read. I believe in equal rights. Who the hell made up the idea that marriage is exclusively for a man and a woman??? This is an apauling concept to me. Just so you know, you don't have to be guy to hold my belief system. I am not gay and I don't need to be to desire equal rights.

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Head: and I'm calling it marriage. Why is that any of your business?

2 hours ago

*You made it everyone's business that commented to your question, when you asked the question. I believe this is one of those times when its not necessary to air your dirty laundry.

Hell no. More power to you. It's none of my business but all of us regardless of sexual orientation should fight for gay rights, including marriage.

Not at all, my friend. I am always pleased to know one of my fellow human beings is happy.

You can label it what you want, you're not legally married. No I do not have a "problem" with you as i don't know you. I do however have a problem with you coming on here and instigating a fight with people who have never done anything to you personally.

Get over yourself!

LOL Head M&M would like you to say what he wants you to say!

I have no problem with it as it does not have anything to do with my life.

Should it matter that anyone has a problem with you? If someone judges you based on your statement alone, then they are shallow. I would have to get to know you and your husband before I could make that judgement.

P.S. Congratulations on your marriage.

Whether I be Rep. or Dem.. I have no problem,