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Should I be jealous if my boyfriend is hanging out with his X?
My boyfriend was recently divorced when we met, and we've become very serious, but he still keeps in touch with his X wife who he was married to for 5 years. they don't have kids but meet every once in a while to discuss the house they still own together, but they end up hanging out in a restaurant for 3-4 hours talking about all that's been going on in their lives. I really don't like this, but my boyfriend has said that one of the things he likes about me is that I'm not the jealous type. should i confront him and ask him to stop meeting with her like this? It really bothers me! I'm afraid the more time he spends with her that he might change his mind and realize he still loves her or something like that. He doesn't seem to think it's a big deal but I do. What should I do? please help!!!!
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- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Why can't you join him when he goes and visits his x? I mean if you are really in a serious relationship with this guy, can't he trust you to let you in on the coverstation between him and his x?
Personally I would be jealous if my "serious" partner was still seeing an x. I understand that they still have dealings with each other and that gives them an excuse to keep some sort of quasi relationship with each other but he is with you now and he shouldn't be spending that much time with an x.
At the same understand that he does still have dealings with his x and that she will continue to be a part of his life until those things get resolved. Also try to understand that odds are they are not over each other and it may come to a point where they decide to get back together. That is just a reality you need to consider and ask yourself if you want to be with a guy like that and risk being put into a situation where you may end up hurt.
If I were you I would either ask him to allow you to go with him when they meet or I would ask him, nicely, to not spend so much time with her. And let him know that it does bother you a little that he does that with his x. Just make sure you tell him that you understand that he has to see her at least some times. Hopefully all they are doing is having a very long dinner.
- jmLv 71 decade ago
This is not easy but try to give up your jealousy or it will work against you. Jealousy is a nasty habit, but it can be beaten, but if it isn't it can ruin a relationship. If a jealous feeling arises, attack it. Tell yourself that he is my boyfriend and he loves me. After you do this numerous times it will go away as it cannot affect you. Again, this is not easy.
Also, support from female friends can help. or provide some insight into your situation.
- jimrichLv 71 decade ago
Jealousy is ALWAYS about insecurity and FEAR!
fix your insecurity & FEAR here..............
