so i have a step son, who is 5 today! happy birthday tyler.?

If you feel the need to, buy him a gift, put it away, have it handy for when you do meet him. Hopefully that will be soon. I wouldn't sign the card unless your husband insists you do.

Your husband is sending his son a bad message. Little kids would figure you're being kept apart because either you stole his dad for yourself so he shouldn't be around a bad person like you, or that dad isn't proud of him so he keeps him (the son) secret from his new family.

I'm guessing this is all the mother's problem. If so, it's extremely selfish of her and damaging to her child. She must be a lunatic, which is probably why you haven't met your stepson, your dh doesn't want to bring the drama into your lives. Give it time.

Good luck!

Have you spoken to your hubby about it? Does he visit with his son? If he does and unless a court says you shouldn't you should be present during visitations. He may not be your own child but he is your husband's and at some point he will be part of your life.

I would sign the card, and make sure his father mentions that the gift was from dad and his step mom. He has to know you exist, his mom should be mature enough to allow you into her son's life. Not that you have to be friends with her or anything.

He is young but now is the most important time to create a relationship.

I think its time you meet him. You want a good relationship with him since he is part of your husbands life. I cant believe your husband doesnt talk about him! Encourage him to get visitation before the boy hates you both. I bet his mom is already badmouthing you all. Right now it is not important that you get him a gift or sign a card. The boy probably has no clue who you are. It's his father's responsibility to get his own son a gift and contact him.

No, it wouldn't be appropriate for you to send him a present.

The only way you couldn't have met your HUSBAND'S son is if the father doesn't have regular contact with his child.

Why on Earth hasn't his father seen him? There is no excuse for that. Unless the father is somehow dangerous, he has the right to see his child. He needs to fight for his son, or else he's no better than every other deadbeat in the world.

For a present, how about telling hubby to man up and see his kid on a regular basis?

Lol, awww... My nephew would be 5 in rather under 2 weeks. he's going to Chuck E. Cheese additionally! and that i do undergo in strategies my 5th birthday occasion... It replace into at a park. I had multiple exciting. My ultimate buddy and that i wore matching outfits. Lol. I nonetheless have the photos. chuffed Birthday on your son!

How have you not met him if you're married? You should be able to sign the card at least. Does your husband have visitation? You should be involved somehow.

if you have never met him, i dont think you have to get him a present? did your husband buy him a present? you could just sign the card, and maybe add a small gift of your own, a toy, stuffed animal, ect

if you have never met him just butt out. the real mom could raise a huge court fuss over that. You are married and never met his kid? that is weird.

i would still get him a present...i don't think that could hurt any...