What should I do? Ladies advice greatly appreciated.?

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Really lengthy story, please read all or don't help at all.

I met this girl a few weeks ago through my recruiter. Her name is Ana, and she needed help with math tutoring for a test. He suggested I help her, so I agreed. We all went out for lunch.

So the first tutor session came, and we held it at my house. I helped her out, and we studied for about three hours. Ana works over night as a waitress, so she never gets to go out with her friends. I asked her if she wanted to go do something, so we did. We went to the mall. After the food court, we went to a movie and I payed for our tickets. She even picked the movie (it was that damn G Force, and I wanted to see Public Enemies...). We played a few games in the arcade while waiting for showtime. The movie sucked, but we both had a great time. After the movie, she asked me if I would go play some basketball with her. Of course I said "yes." We went to a park around 10 pm, and started playing ball. She then got a text, and seemed a little upset. I asked what the problem was, and she said it was her BOYFRIEND being jealous. The lights turned off at the park soon, so we left. She took me home around 11 pm. Along the way, she called and spoke with her BOYFRIEND. It was in Spanish, so I didn't understand. She didn't tell me much, but she said he lives in a town about four hours away from here.

Two days ago, we were supposed to tutor again, but she text me and said she didn't want to. But, she still asked me if I wanted to hang out around 7 pm. I said sure, and she came over later. We went and played some mini golf. After having a blast there for a couple hours, we went and played some bowling. I covered the golf, she got the bowling. Things were going great, and then she busted out her phone to text her boyfriend again. I was disappointed, and it showed. She asked if I was tired. After a quick chat with my friend, I was in a great mood in no time. Finally around midnight, she took me home. As I got out of the car, I explained that I wasn't tired earlier, but upset because of texting her BOYFRIEND while we hung out.
We goofed off so much during our dates, and we shared many laughs and smiles. We also have a lot of stuff in common. She's so smart and beautiful, but I'm just so confused.

Can we be more than friends? Can I replace her current BOYFRIEND that lives hundreds of miles away? What should I do? And please don't tell me to "grow a pair" as I already have a pair.

I'm 19 and she's 20, just an fyi.

Thanks for reading, and hopefully helping.

? · Accepted Answer

Take it from someone who knows...the best thing you can do is tell her you wont go out on "dates" with her anymore until she is rid of the boyfriend. She's cheating on him with you, dude...that's not cool. It doesn't matter if nothing went on, if her boyfriend doesn't approve, it's wrong. Do you want to be the loser who this girl cheats on her boyfriend with? I'm betting you have more self-worth than that! What you need to do is tell HER to grow a pair and make a decision...she's not being fair to either of you.

Mandi · Answer

If she really loves her boyfriend then don't try to push her into leaving him because then you might just push away a great friend. But personally it sounds like she's having boyfriend problems considering shes checking in with him by text (he's probably a selfish jerk that freaks out if she doesn't) and she complained that he was being jelous. I think you have a good chance with her since shes the one wanting to go out on dates with you. She sounds like she likes you but she might feel guilty about liking you along with her boyfriend so don't go rushing into things just let her control the pace. Try finding out what her relationship with her boyfriend is like, if she IS having problems then just be there for her. Over all I think your best chance at being with her is by being the best friend you can be. Datable friend that is ;P

♥Bella♥ · Answer

well mabye shes just confused like umabye she likes u the newguy in her life but then she has all that history with her bf
i think u should tell her how u feel
i mean if u missed the chance how would you feel?
mabye she wont feel the same way but then mabye shell realize she misses sum1 like u
good luck

Tizmo · Answer

ok, well first i think that you guys do have chemistry, and that you should definitly ask her out when the time is right.....BUT only after she is no longer with her current boyfriend. getting in the middle of relationships is a HUGE no no , and not just cause of morals. Trust me from experience... she might come to resent you. If her boyfriend is upsetting her by being clingy, and distant, who knows.... they prolly woun't last that much longer. and then you'll have your chance. alright?

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joel · Answer

Maybe you just haven't found the right girl yet. Don't worry, and don't rush it. One little thing: don't tell a girl about your lack of experience. What she won't know won't hurt her. Besides, it'll just make you seem naive and inexperienced, of course. =]

Alissa · Answer

maybe u shuld just play the friend card for a while! she obviously likes u if she still wants to hang out with you! try talking to her about how u feel! i hope i could help!

BabyGirl :) · Answer

i think you might have a chance if she keeps wanting to do stuff with you do a few more things with her and then tell her how you feel don't hide it, be a man some girls love to hear feelings just flat out and not wounder.

Alie · Answer

yes you can become a couple but don't continue being friends hoping to get a GF out of this.

Anonymous · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

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