Father Daughter Dance Dilemma?

The reason he probably wants that song is because it means a lot to him. Every time he hears that song, he thinks of you. He thinks of when you were five and he tucked you in. He thinks of his little girl. I don't think he is trying to be difficult and by no means it shouldn't make you uncomfortable. This song just means a lot to him....and while it may not strike you with the same amount of emotions...I can pretty much guarantee that this song does hit him with a lot of emotions.

He is already giving up his little girl that day too, let him have his song.

You have probably made all the decisions for this wedding, right? (Well, you and your fiance, I assume.) And your dad has probably looked forward to this for a very long time, I'm sure.

I would just suck it up and let him have what he wants. You can deal with a three-minute song even if it's not your favorite. Let him have his moment in the sun with you. You have *dozens* of other opportunities to pick songs that you like at the reception (entrance music, first dance, cake cutting, bouquet/garter toss, last dance), and he only gets one. So make him happy after all he's done for you.

I agree with Casper. You probably have made 5,000 decisions related to your wedding. Your dad is just asking to make one.

And....as long as you have been dreaming about your wedding day, he has been too. And the first dance is one of the things that dad's dream about. And he dreamed about this moment with that soundtrack running through his mind. He is a big ole softie...even if you don't really know it. And this song has a great meaning to him....because of you. Out of respect for everything else he has done for you over the years...I think you can let him choose this song.

Beyond that...one great thing about the whole wedding planning process was that I felt it helped teach me to being more open to compromise and find common ground. I felt it was great training for being married. (That makes marriage sound like it is full of compromises...it isn't. I love being married.) So, look at this experience with your dad as prepping you for being a great wife.

Its your wedding -- ask him why he wont discuss any other option. He may just be really really set on it, and always thought he'd dance with you to that song, and it's just some big emotional thing for him.

Try and ocme up with a compromise; maybe do both? It'd be long, but you could like invite everyone else to come up a little after the second song starts..

Wedding issues always seem hard to deal with. Your thinking it's you day, he might be paying for it and thinks he has a final say....

Would it be totally unfitting for you to dance to 2 songs with your dad. Let him know you really love this certain song and you want to remember your wedding day for the rest of your life, and the most special part, the dance with Daddy.

Perhaps he'll think of your request for 2 dances to 2 songs, realize how important it is to you, and let your choice be the one he goes with.

Hope that helps you

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well, if you really want another song then tell him so. he'll probably be a little upset but i'll think he'll get over it and just live in the moment during your dance....i personally love the my little girl song by tim mcgraw! however, it should be a song you really want if your going against your father's wishes, and he might not appreciate the i loved her first song, because that's how you would feel if you were him, but obviously he doesn't seem to think it describes what he's feeling as well as butterfly kisses....basically pick what you want since it's your wedding, just break it gently to him

It must have a lot of sentimental meaning to him if he is that gun hoe on it. I would just let him have it :) Honestly you will probably get so caught up in the moment you won't be thinking "OMG... this song totally doesn't fit us" You have a lot more important things to be worrying about than fighting with your father about a song to dance to. Pick your battles wisely during wedding planning!

Well, it's your wedding, so ultimately, it's your call. But since your parents are more than likely paying for it, let your dad choose his song. It's how he remembers his little girl.

If it's really going to bother you, ask him if you can use My Girl instead, and explain why. He just may budge... you are still his little girl after all.

in case you dont prefer to do the dance then you rather dont ought to. its no longer a reqirement and alluring your father is as much as you. in case you go with him there then choose for it. in case you dont then dont, yet i could invite him. of course in the journey that your in touch with him then you rather prefer to purpose and set up some style of relationship. this could properly be considered one of those situations the place you the two ought to settle for the previous and take a verify out and have a destiny or no longer settle for the previous and not be in touch with him. you cant rub it in his face that he wasnt there for you, yet nevertheless choose a relationship with him (no longer saying you're doing this in any respect...purely attempting to make a element) in case you do despite if invite him and do plan to bounce with your grandfather and have him walk then you definitely i could make that prevalent ot your father earlier than time in order that he doesnt sense injury (even however you probable sense injury from 15 years of no longer having him...this is as quickly as returned an settle for and circulate on kinda ingredient) purely enable him be attentive to how that's...you wanna dance with grandpa simply by fact he's been there for each little thing and it could recommend alot to the two considered one of you to have that dance. I despite if wouldnt dance with my significant different's father as a father/daughter dance in front of my actual dad...that could rather injury him. good success however...and you could dance with your actual father on the marriage...it doesnt must be on my own as a father/daughter dance...that's each time during the evening. however the mans already missed 15 years of your existence...dont make him omit this too.