Child, 9, carried out sex assault?

If it was my child committing a crime then I'd question my parenting skills. 

I'd question what I'd exposed my child to. 

I'd question my childs company too. Whilst parenting is to blame, you have a hard job reinforcing positive behaviour if another child behaves negatively. 

I'd assess what was best & seek and accept help. A lot of parents do not co operate and accept the help because they don't see themselves at fault. 

Then you have the parents who fail to see and accept their children have learning/behavioural difficulties which could contribute to these behaviours.

It's hard to say what exactly I'd do but I know I'd accept help & would do my upmost to help my child. 

Children learn by example - if they are brought up well - they will know the difference between right and wrong.

If they have poor guidance and are not taught right from wrong - they will need the support and help of outside agencies to put them on the right track.

I know from personal involvement that one of the hardest things to hear is that your child has 'sexually assaulted' another child and that if parents bury their heads in the sand and go into 'denial' - the situation gets worse and the child is the one who suffers.

What saddens me in the case of a child sexually abusing another child - is that they learnt that behaviour from someone and how are they supposed to know it is wrong at the age of 5 etc.?

I would just like to add JOMAMO'S answer is 'sensible'!

You have to remember that these are CHILDREN committing these crimes. Where are their parents? What sort of homelife do they have? And in the case of the sexual abuse, as Jomamo says, this is a clear indication that the child themselves may have been abused. Surely as a Foster Carer you must have some understanding of these sorts of issues? You advocate a 'short sharp' home remedy for these clearly neglected children - what sort of a response is that for goodness sake? Haven't you had ANY training on the cycle of abuse, violence and deprivation in many families?

Edit: If this happened in my home I would ask for help for my child and myself, probably family therapy and individual counselling and parenting classes for myself and my husband as we would obviously be in need of it.

You see that's the whole point .That child,and he is still a child doesn't have a responsible parent caring two figs about him and that creates the environment that probably led to his actions.In cases like that the child would be better being taken out of that environment altogether and given the chance to grow in to a responsible adult.

Wouldn't happen in my home I was there 24/7 with eyes in the back of my head and nothing got past me.

It depends on the circumstances. Accusing a 9 year old of "sexual assault" is a bit like accusing a 3 year old of "stealing" - they don't understand what they're doing.

I would imagine the 9 year old's home life needs thouroughly investigating. The chances are - he's being abused himself.

Neither of my children would do such a thing - I know that for a fact.

This unfavorable situation has developed simply by laptop physique of techniques. we will not deliver toddlers to detention center (yet) yet what we are able to do is - confine them to their properties and not be set unfastened till they and their mum and dad study to abide via unwritten society regulations. this might punish the susceptible mum and dad. (They lose their reward - they are able to't bypass to paintings - lose their activity - would desire to have procuring extra - no vacations and so on.) as nicely simply by fact the youngster. Plus the mummy and dad would desire to be compelled to pay for the wear and tear/injury led to. E.g pay for the upkeep if any - pay for the police time (approximately £30.00 according to hour) - Pay for the criminal equipment had to deliver the youngster to courtroom - and pay damages to the sufferer)... those youthful criminals would desire to be taken off the streets- whether it won't ensue till the regulation makers go through as we do... My spouse has a three (definite 3) twelve months previous sceam at her "i'm going to decrease your throat from ear to ear. You fucki-g previous cow") The police did no longer something in any respect...

I would become the warden for my child's own private prison and my child would serve a sentence I deem appropriate for the crime he/she committed. There is no way in hell I would ever allow any child of mine to commit a crime and not pay the consequences for that crime. Part of living in a society that works is dealing with the consequences of our actions...something so many parents today have forgotten to teach their children.

Edit: No, thank YOU for asking this question. It really brings to light that one of the problems in society today is the lack of parenting on the part of the parents. I was raised by a single father who respected us and himself enough to teach us personal responsibility at a young age. Too bad so many people today would rather just pass the job of being a parent onto someone else.

Good grief, at nine year old I was still playing with my Action Man.

The last thing a nine year old who commits a "sexual assault" needs is to be dealt with by "the law".

Any kind of overt sexual activity in a child of that age is an indicator that that child is a victim of sexual abuse.These cases need very careful handling.

They should be villified by the press with their picture published so we can watch out for this pervert.