Is It Weird That Transphobia Hurts Me A Million Times More Than Homophobia?

Wow now how to answer this question. I know I am constantly probing myself for more answers all the time. I guess for myself I too am searching for a more simple solution or an answer to why I am trans.

So many and even the GLB's try to put a quick label on us trans folk. I've lost count to how many people including the GLB have come out and called me male pronouns even when I am standing there in a skirt and heels.

It frustrates me to no end when people just don't get it. At times I too get upset to my stomach wondering why people just can't take me for who I am portraying. Why do they always have to assume that I am still a man.

I tell people that I am Chocolate pudding with a Vanilla wrapper. And even when they know that I am really Chocolate. They still persist in calling me Vanilla.

So maybe your pain comes from knowing all this too. You sit and wonder as to why people can't read the signs that are sitting before them. I know stupid people frustrate me to no end. And maybe they do the same to you.

It is a sign that you have compassion and heart. Especially when you feel that you yourself are not trans. And maybe it is people like you that will make this a better world to live in someday. People like you that will make all of the pain and fears for being trans a thing of the past. And this is why you have phobia's is from seeing into the future. You know it is going to be a really tough, long, drawn out battle ahead.

i think of it quite is already happening. we are approximately on the Nineteen Sixties, while a small yet becoming team of human beings in the rustic - a bypass component to human beings - seen racism as antiquated and unfair. right this moment there are human beings all over the rustic who've come to understand that homosexuality has consistently been here, will consistently be here and isn't any longer a call. extra importantly, they settle for that to suppress homosexuality - the two on the non-public point or with the aid of cultural homophobia - is immoral and unfavorable to persons. conversing basically for usa, the place it took 30 or 40 years to bypass from "regularly innately racist" to electing a black President, and calculating in the acceleration of technologies and communications that we've experienced in the final 2 an prolonged time, i might say we've 10 or 2 an prolonged time till maximum human beings view homophobia unfavorably. in assessment to racism, this transformation isn't a conflict concentrated on a nexus of racism, simply by fact the south grow to be in the Nineteen Sixties. this may well be a debate that happens in each and every extreme college, each and every community, each and every chat room and place of work the place gays experience extra advantageous to return into view. As further and further human beings come out, their associates and buddies and coworkers will come to grips with the undeniable fact that it is not a much off concern yet one regarding associates and families. there is no segregation here. every person is familiar with somebody who's gay. The question is, do they understand the guy is gay and settle for it. I actual think of we are at or previous the tipping factor, the place "haters" are fewer than accepters. it is going to easily take time to mirror that for the time of our establishments, which incorporate gay marriage, significant different reward, and so on. LGBT human beings additionally would desire to undergo in techniques that a thank you to provide up haters is to no longer create haters. merely as we don't prefer to stay with different human beings inflicting their ideals on us, others have that perfect as nicely. it quite is coming, regardless of the undeniable fact that. we are all becoming a extra advantageous human beings. Barring a non secular lashback that sends us all to the witch-hunt days, our subculture is desperate to make some super leaps in the subsequent 2 an prolonged time. Jim the Yooper

You're more evolved (lol.)

Seriously, empathy is an advanced trait, and not everyone possesses it. It requires the ability to put another person's (often a stranger's) welfare ahead of your own, at least in your mind. If we could design a perfect society from scratch, compassion, consideration and empathy should be the foundation, but unfortunately, society is merely an outgrowth of natural selection, and natural selection is cruel and harsh.

While I would never assume that one persons pain is worse than another persons, the pain of homosexuality is primarily limited to social sexuality. A persons sexual preference can be a source of pain when it is not accepted by society, but people do not express their sexuality to the world every second of the day. A homosexual person may dislike their feelings, but they can still look in the mirror and like what they see. They can still interact with the world and feel comfortable being treated appropriately by others as the males and females that they are. They have a recourse that allows them to express their sexuality with others. Society can be cruel to homosexuals, especially during adolescence, but there is a fairly large gay and lesbian subculture in our Country to which they can turn for support, and homosexuality is not hidden anymore. Transsexual people have no such outlets. Transsexualism is still something to be "ashamed of", not to be "proud of", though this is at last starting to change. A transsexual person gets all of the same bigotry and hatred from society as a homosexual person, but then we can also hate ourselves.

A transsexual person looks in the mirror and hates what they see. They interact with people and cringe at being treated like what they know they are not. Crossdressing may provide relief to some, but a transsexual person's pain is literally the result standing by while their own body revolts and becomes a prison, and they are helpless to stop it. This creates a feeling of self-loathing and despair unlike anything a non-transsexual person can imagine. Without treatment, for the rest of their life a transsexual is reminded 24 hrs a day, 7 days a week of their condition. It chips away on a person's sanity day-by-day, until the train runs out of track, and you either jump off, or go over the cliff.

If you understand even a small amount of this, you understand what an absolute living hell it is to have this condition. Both homosexuality and transsexuality have always been part of the human condition, but only within the last century have transsexuals had the ability to do something to correct their condition. In different cultures, at different points in time, homosexuality has been a prominent feature - sometimes even a well accepted feature. It simply doesn't carry the same stigma that transsexualism carries. For all intensive purposes, transsexuals have been the modern day version of lepers. I can totally understand how strongly you can feel for our plight. In the same way, I watch children with cancer at St. Jude's hospital, and feel their plight is a thousand times worse than people who get cancer in their 60's, even though dying of cancer is tragic at any age. It kills me to watch these poor kids struggle and fight just to stay alive.

I'm gender variant, and I can relate to what you're saying. The GLB community is already the underdog compared to the heterosexual world, and GLB people turning their back on transfolks is like the bullied kid trying to regain power and confidence by taking some other kid's lunch money. It hurts when I see it happen. Maybe I'm wrong to expect GLB people to be more sensitive to minorities because they, too, are faced with oppression. It's not a lot to ask for.

When transpeople turn on other transpeople? It's even worse. I feel like an idiot sometimes because I expect other trans/gender-variant people to address me how I want to be addressed -- not immediately jump to conclusions about my gender based on how I look. And, of course, they still don't change their language even after I tell them how I identify. Not cool :(

Thank you very much Gwennie. You have been probably the only non trans person that has taken the time to educate yourself as to what we go through in our lives. I am sure we all appreciate that support.

Thank you seems like it is not enough but I do not know what more I can say. I truly wish there were many more people like you.

Thank You for the support.

Not weird at all. Spending the last month or so in Y!A LGBT has given me heartache when it comes to all of the hostility and ignorance geared toward our Trans friends. I cannot even imagine what it is like to walk in their shoes.

Thank you Gwennie, we love you!

You have taken the time to learn about us and understand what we deal with in life.

You are an amazing and empathetic person.

It’s because you are compassionate and understanding of what transsexualism is, and what transsexual people have to endure in life.

I for one thank you for being such a strong ally of the transgender/transsexual community.

You ought to change your profile then--It still says that you're Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered. Not that I care of course. As a gay male, having you thrust upon me as a member of the same "community" is as grotesque a mésalliance with your Lesbianism as it was with your now retracted trannyness. Whatever you are, I have nothing in common with you, no sympathy with you, and no liking for you. If my abhorrence and detestation of effeminacy and all the many stripes and nuances of trannies is as distressing to you as you say it is, I can't say that I'm sorry--but you'd be flattering yourself (something that I observe you do rather a lot of) to suppose that it gratifies me. Why don't you take yourself, and all that zoo of girls and girl-like things, "trans-this" and "trans-that," somewhere beyond my notice and outside of my line of sight. Trust me, I am in no need of any of you, and will not miss you. For me, living in Blue States and Western Europe, the Gay Men's Revolution is over--and we have won. I feel nothing for the accumulated baggage that you and your vile associates are to me, but a strong urge to get you all off my back and out of my life--and, if you'll allow it, to forget that you exist.