help my husbands pantyhose fetish is ruining our sex life !?

My suggestion: Wear the hose in the kitchen.

Alright, alright, that's a cheap answer, but there is truth to it to. Find a way to get him interested in what you want by merging the two. You want him to kiss your neck, grab you and move to the couch? Put the hose on the coach and tell him you'll put 'em on if he can get you're engine going in the kitchen first.

Make a game of it. He needs to kiss you passionately for 30 seconds, and you pull the hose up over your ankle. If he can pleasure you in other ways, you'll pull 'em up over the knee, if can get you really excited, they go on all the way.

Make it a quid pro quo sort of thing... in a fun way. If he'll trying this new position/location/style today without hose, then you'll go get a new pair of hose in his favorite color and greet him when he gets home from work in them. Tell him he needs "earn his prize" by being a sexual stud.

Frankly, you'll never get him to stop being interested in the hose. But you can make it work for both of you, and get him to realize that you're more than willing to play his game if he'll play yours as well.

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A lot of men have odd fantasies and hide them pretty well. It's good that you knew beforehand. But if there is nothing there sexually (without the hose) then I'm sorry to say there isn't much to do. A marriage counselor would be the ideal suggestion but since you've already tried that, and he is unwilling to talk about it rationally, then you might want to consider a divorce. Or at least a trial separation. The idea isn't to leave him, it's to get his attention, if you leave him then he will probably realize how much it bothers you and he would hopefully be willing to talk about it then. But then again there is always the possibility that he may not want you back (so be cautious and give it some serious thought).

If all else fails, I'm a single guy who doesn't have a pantyhose fetish.

I no this is so Junior high but hav u tried maybe emailing him w/ a letter telling him exactly how u feel & letting him no if he doesn't cool down with the fetish & think about "us" then HE is going 2 loose u! Maybe tell him if ur ok w/ it and if he don't do it already then 2 look @ chicks w/ panty-hose online 2 get stimulated then com & do ur thing in bed but let him no in the letter as well, some things u want 2 do. But make the letter sound "Lovey" if that makes sense just really let him no how much u love him but he is unsatisfying his woman and if he doesn't stop then its over! With the letter it gives u a chance 2 talk & him just 2 listen! & if he is an *** & says fine if u wanna leave me cuz of my fetish then fine bye!! u know its more then that & so do I lol. PLUS a fetish is a FETISH its not a SEX LIFE everything is not suppose to revolve around it, especially if its only HIS!

Its fine to have any kind of fantasy you want, so long as both people are comfortable its a free table. However....if you continue to use the same fantasies over and over you become reliant on them to get turned on. It sounds like this is what has happened - however its also possible that your partner is surpressing parts of his sexual nature. I dont know him so I cant say - but something could well have happened to make him block sexual feelings from sources other panty hose (in england we call them tights!).

There must be some serious issues here if he cant even talk about why hes so focused on one thing. It may be too much and too painful to talk about so I would suggest you show him he can get satisfaction in other ways. Even if its stuff that doesnt really get you going just proving to him that something else can turn him on might help.

If he likes you dressing up then try role play - by all means get dressed up but try something like being a french maid, get a tiny skirt, high heels, a feather dusters to tease him with but dont wear the panty hose.

Short of that you're gonna have let him break himself inside by talkin about it to find out what the problem is. But I can understand you wouldnt wanna do that.

What if you initiate something when you're not wearing them, and if he asks you to put them on say something like "no, this time it's my way". Then maybe you guys can take turns and it doesn't always have to be his way.

I have a pantyhose fetish too, but if my wife initiates out of the blue and she's not wearing them, I'm definitely not going to ruin the moment by declining because she's not wearing them.

Just curious, how long have you known him, known of the fetish, and been married?

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help my husbands pantyhose fetish is ruining our sex life !?

i have know since early on that he liked them ! i have played along and tried to find things i like too about the hose being involved in our sex life ! but i am finding myself angry and uninterested in sex with him because there is nothing between us sexually if i am not wearing hose. i may as well...

It is not impossible for a circumcised man to have sex. My husband and I have successfully had sex many times over the past 10 years and have two small children to prove it! If he is having trouble performing then he should see a doctor, they can diagnose the problem as physical or psychological and treat it accordingly. Now, I believe that a circumcision should only be performed on consenting adults, just like any other body modification, but circumcision is not to blame for your husband's inability to perform.

It sounds like a power struggle. Some people would think it's a fetish but I think it's a power struggle: my way or the highway type thing.

He doesn't want to go to the counselor because it probably is embarrassing to talk about.

You could simply tell him that either you two work it out with a counselor or you both find other ways to satisfy yourselves sexually. And then stick to that. You can make it clear that it doesn't mean you would cheat on him with another person - this is where a vibrator comes in handy - but it does mean that you won't be coerced into having sex only one way, with him worshiping your hose and forgetting there's anything else.

Good luck!

Hope you figured this out. Here are some extra pointers from a guy on the other side of the equation. I'm in a relationship and my lady sounds like you, wants sex, foreplay and romance all the time. Our first date I let her know about my fetish, to keep everything open and fair. To me, she has never understood it, and never probed or asked on what else could be done to increase the above (sex, romance and foreplay.) When she really wants sex, she, like you, will go put on stockings or pantyhose, and she'll get it. Other than that I rarely if ever initiate it because I'm honestly not turned on without them in the equation. She is pretty, attractive, and wanted by other men constantly, there is just something wired different with me that hosiery needs to be tided in with it.

Personally for me, its not putting hose on [demand] that turns me on, its when they are fully incorporated into your daily life. There are some suggestions here that hint at that, but they are mostly geared toward immediate action. What I am suggesting is, instead of having a drawer that you hit just when you want sex, try wearing them more frequently in your daily life, but wear them as a fetish would find appealing. For example, to work, any time you go out, snap up-skirt photos to him while you're at work as foreplay, have him get worked up all day. Personally, I don't think panties belong with pantyhose, and its a super turn on knowing when she is wearing pantyhose without underwear (to work, or anywhere in public.) The thought of her adding to that by cutting the gusset out adds to it (crotch-less.)

Making yourself wanted and appealing outside of the bedroom is a huge turn on. I'd be hard pressed to find a guy out there that doesn't like the look of women's legs in hosiery. I know seeing other guys eyeing up my ladies legs also gets me going.

Hosiery is also not just a single be all for me, its a compliment to the entire package. I want the heels, the skirt, the dress, all of it together. Pantyhose have become a symbol of femininity to me, making the difference between you and I.

There are lots of directions he could go. So guys want garter belts, or teddies, or like fishnets (I can't stand them as an example.) Roleplaying, cosplay, etc. Anything that incorporate it could be fun, but ultimately, roping them into your daily dress is the sexiest thing I could ask of someone.

In the end, talking to him and finding exactly what would make it better for you and him, is the best.

Hope this helps, from another hosiery fetishist.