Should i call her or do something?!?

It sounds like she was your favorite cousin as a child. No matter what she said, she IS family. I think you should call her. Yes, call her first. If you just show up at her door step one day, that may freak her out. Try calling her and ask her if she wants your help or needs you for anything. I hope everything works out well.

It would not help her because she has lost all trust in people. If u had not been away fro her then YES i would say u could be of some help. But since u have been away for four years it is a long time and she prob has other people.

However others can see it different, u may be the breath of fresh air she needs to release whatever pain she has and to finally talk about what has happened to her. You need to think you may not know how to react after she tells you some gruesome details of what happened. Your reactions can be seen by her in a way you may not mean them to be. You need to be prepared for something like that and or u may not have the educational knowledge for a rape victim that is needed to guide them to heal.

i think your decision is a chance. it is 50/50 whether or not it is the right choice to make. Either u gain her trust back or u lose it forever. You should take the chance but be prepared for it to go the other way.

i don't know if your a religious person or not but the second greatest commandment next to loving god with your whole heart mind and soul the second is to love your neighbor in that way and how much more so then a family member. Don't let something petty ruin your relationship with her. at the end of the day nothing is more important than family and this is the perfect time to come back into her life. This is a tragedy and if you can't over look faults in a tragedy you never will.

Your heart is telling you to reach out to her. It's a noble thing to do: to reach out to someone in need. Many years have passed and you all are probably very different people now than you were 4 years ago. People mature and grow, they have regrets and they change. Especially after such a traumatic thing as a rape.

I'd say yes, reach out her, but talk to your sister first, so she doesn't hear it from someone else. Explain to her your reasons for wanting to help and that, you would, if the situations were reversed, want someone to reach out to you.

If you do decide to contact her, just know she may be embarassed or reluctant to talk about what happened. Let her tell you things in her own time. Tell her you're there for her, whether she wants to talk or not. Just listen. She may be withdrawn or she may seem like a different person; everyone reacts to trauma differently. She may just want distraction, like a movie or a walk, and not want to talk. Such trauma is hard to talk about to anyone, even one's closest friends.

Whichever you decide, know that was the right thing for you at this time in your life.

Four years is a long time to hold a grudge over something that happened to your sister. She would probably really appreciate it if you got in contact with her. She needs all the friends she can get.

You don't have to hold your grudge. You are worried about her, so call her! or you'll keep thinking about it until you do something