pap smear when pregnant?

Report him to his medical board, his office assistants, the hospital he works at, anywhere you can think of. You should never leave an appointment feeling like someone raped you. If you feel this way, it's because you were raped. You really need to get some professional assistance and report this doctor to the highest degree. See a lawyer too and see if you might be able to sue him. You could report him to the police, possibly. Even if the rape charges couldn't go through, you could sue him for assault and battery, performing medical procedures on you without your consent and without explaining them to you.

I would seriously consider getting a midwife for your maternity care. They tend to be more personable and caring and give you better low-risk care, making you less likely to have unnecessary procedures done during your pregnancy and birth. This is worse than just an impersonable doctor, however... he literally attacked you, according to law. You need to do something about it. He shouldn't be able to practice medicine if he's doing things like this. Imagine how horrible he must be during births!

Most doctors won't congratulate you or tell you how to take care of yourself very much at all. Some are great, but if you want personal attention and someone who will spend the time to listen to you and help you through your transition to motherhood, you'd be much better off with a midwife. A nurse midwife attends mostly hospital births and has a physician backup in case anything happens. A homebirth midwife may have a variety of trainings or medical background and may be a nurse midwife as well (you need to ask). These midwives attend low-risk home births and have a back up plan in case a mom needs to transfer to the hospital for any reason (usually because labor is taking a long time or she wants medication for pain).

Good luck and I'm very sorry this happened to you.

Was this your first pap smear ever? Pap smears during pregnancy are normal so that was no reason for alarm but his reason...because of the risk of miscarriage...I don't get that unless you've miscarried before? The breast exam is normal too. The docs typically have you put one arm behind your head and they press their fingers onto your skin then gently (but quickly) rub your breast in a circular motion working from the nipple outward. This is how they check for lumps or other abnormalities in the breast which may indicate breast cancer. These days doctors or nurse pract. should NOT and do not, in my experience, perform ANY exam or procedure where the patient is naked or in a stage of undress without a witness present in the room! Was he totally alone? You mean he did this with no witnesses?? He should have asked a nurse to come in and stay for the whole thing otherwise he sets himself up to be sued! When you say he raped you with a metal rod...did he actually use it in a sexual way? During a pap the doctor will use KY gel to lubricate you then will insert a speculum to widen the opening of the vagina so that the cervix can be examined. The speculum may be metal but usually are plastic and feel very uncomfortable when inserted then opened up...you may here a click, click, clicking noise as the doc opens the tool. After that a plastic spatula and small brush are used to collect cells from the cervix, which to me down right hurts when they do this! Then after the doc takes the speculum out they normally will do a pelvic exam where they will insert their finger into the vagina while also using their other hand to press on the outside of the stomach...feeling for masses and such. Doctors usually try to do the entire exam as quickly as possible because they know its uncomfortable and women don't like it. Just remember Paps are very invasive and if it was your very first I could understand how you would feel raped...but if your doctor lingered too long...or if it felt more sexual to you than clinical and obviously it did...I feel you should report him to the police and do not go back...find a different doctor...one with a better "bedside manner" and that you can feel comfortable with. Lots of luck to you!

To be perfectly honest...I dont understand women who expect their doctor to be their best friend. He is there to do a job and thats what he did. I think maybe you got a little upset after he didnt congratulate you for being pregnant and maybe the rest is a bit of an exagguration. I didnt get a congrats from my doctor either and I'm pretty sure he probably didnt just come right out and say hey you could have a misscarriage. He was probably just warning you since you said you are clueless that it is something that could happen. I got told that at the hospital as well when we saw my babys heartbeat at 6 weeks. They said everything looked ok but dont get my hopes up yet as it is still very early. He didnt grope your boobs....he was checking for lumps and yes they are sore...your pregnant. And he didnt rape you with a metal rod...he did a pap which is something you get when pregnant to check for cervical cancer and other problems. To tell you the truth you sound very very young as many women have had paps before getting pregnant and know the routine. So there is no reason to feel violated. All I can tell you is if you dont like your doctor find a new one, but not many doctors out there will hold your hand each step of the way and offer you a shoulder to cry on. I know I'll get thumbs down, but whatever. Being in the health care field myself I am polite to all my patients, but I'm not there to become your best friend and hear all your problems.

hmmm..I'm sorry but for some reason I just can't make myself believe you. Especially when you use words like "raped me with a metal rod" and "groped my boos"

But if it is true...I will tell you that this is why I saw a midwife. I was never treated this badly but Dr's (especially males Drs) are sometimes very brash and right to the point. No feeling and no compassion. Where midwives are more personal and kind.

The pap and breast check is necessary. Everyone gets that done. He did what he was supposed to although not very nicely. I would put it behind me if I were you and either find a good midwife or at least a different Dr.

First of all, you need to discuss this with someone close to you, that you respect and trust, then you can determine if you want to file a complaint with the state medical board. You need to seek the care of a compassionate and gentle physician for the sake of your mental health. Ask around for recommendations for a female provider. Also, did the doctor that victimized you have a female nurse or medical assistant in the room for the exam? If not, he's looking at some big legal issues. While it's not a law, it's a good idea to have an assistant in the room when doing a breast exam or pelvic on the opposite sex. I am so sorry this happened to you and hopw you take what you feel is appropriate action to get started on your healing.

EDIT: Due 1/27/10.... Please don't be so harsh, there really are bad doctors out there....we read about abusive male gynecologists way too much in the newpaper and this poor girl may have encountered one........however, recommending a midwife was great; after enduring this exam, she needs the gentle care of a midwife. That I agree with you on!!

The pap smear is to make sure that you haven't any irregular cells (ie melanoma). It is flawlessly dependable to do while pregnant when you consider that they simply take cells from the external of the cervix. It is not going to damage the little one whatsoever.

The pap smear is fine. I had one when I went to the doc for my first prenatal visit. it is done with the metal rod he used on you. However, he doesn't seem too friendly so I would recommend that you find a different doctor. One that you are comfortable with. They will be delivering your baby, so I would want someone more hands-on and friendly.

I would probably switch doctors, he sounds impersonal.

I love my doctor and his nurse because theyre personal! When the doctor or nurse listens to the heartbeat they actually talk to her! It's so cute. And They have an online website that tells me exactly what every appointment was supposed to be. The pap smear wasn't that bad and they were nice at all times. Saying congrats and giving me lil gifts like free samples and coupons.

Try switching doctors he sounds like a a$$hole.

The pap smear is necessary, he's checking for HPV and STD's which is very important to know if you're pregnant because they can effect your baby. Your doctor isn't there to tell you congrats on your baby and make it all warm and fuzzy, doctors are there to make sure you and the baby make it out ok. He did a breast exam on you to check for any abnormal lumps which is a sign of breast cancer. He didn't rape you, he did a pap smear.

Doctors are by the books, they do everything medically not sunshine and rainbows. If you don't like your doctor, you can find a new one but you'd be better off with a midwife.

EDIT: I'm not being harsh I'm being honest, you can take this to any lawyer and try to report him but saying he raped you by getting a pap smear is not going to get you anywhere. The doctor did what he was supposed to. I've seen the difference between doctors and midwives, I got to my doctor every 2 weeks for my high risk pregnancy he's never told me congrats and I don't expect him to because it's not his job. His job is to do what's necessary to make sure my baby and I make it through the pregnancy and delivery ok. They aren't paid to be extra sweet to you just because you're having a baby.

What the heck?

It isn't a joke? okay, you need to tell someone what happened at your checkup. You need to reported his ***! Good luck and congratulation on your pregnancy. My doctor is a male too but I always had my husband in the room with me.. Good thing my doctor isn't like that..