Was going to the club with my fiance' a bad idea? I feel so disrespected right now!?

You had no idea that her ex would be there. And she probably didn't either. So what all happened was probably just a big mistake. I blame most of it on the alcohol and her wanting to have a little fun. She probably wouldn't have gone so far if she weren't drunk. Try to get some sleep. If you can't stand being near her, go to a friends' house or something for a few days. Cool down. Then try talking to her. Maybe she is really regretful for what she has done and deserves a second chance. And I really hope that things work out well for all of you in the end.

Well as the other posters said some of it probably has to do with her drinking alcohol......

I would say yeah you should be upset with her...alcohol or no alcohol she should remember that she has a fiancee'.

Sleep on it....and talk to her about it tomorrow...She will probably apologize and be sorry she did that.

And you two live together and have 2 young boys, I'm sure it will all work out.

Sorry this had to happen to you!

EDIT: Oh and yes you should be mad at the ex boyfriend too! IF he knew that you were her fiancee' then he shouldn't of let her do that--but some people will do that kind of stuff.

He should of stopped it when the dancing turned inappropriate

I'm sorry that this happened to you. I'm sure that your fiance' didn't know that her ex would be at the party. Also, I think that the alcohol was the thing that made her behave in such a loose manner. Just try to get some sleep tonight. If you don't wanna be there with her, go to your parents' or a friends house until you calm down. Then talk to her about how her disrespectful behavior made you feel. Maybe she will be remorseful and never do it again.

I'm sorry that this happened to you, man. No doubt you are feeling angry and disrespected. I truly believe that the alcohol caused your fiance' to cross the line. I'm sure that she loves you. And she probably didn't know that her ex would be at the party. Just give it a few days. Then try talking to her about the way that you feel about all of this. Maybe she will apologize and promise not to do anything like this in the future. Good luck and best wishes.

Well, I probably wouldn't know what the best decision for YOU would be. But if this is a one time maybe you should give him a second chance. I think that maybe you should talk to him and try to find out what happened and why we went to some club/bar instead of being with you and your mother. If he is just a stubborn jerk then yes, break up with him, but if it really still loves you and you love him then you should be able to get through this tough situation together! If you two are really meant to be together then you will have to see if you can still stay strong even in times of frustration, confusion and anger! :)

Tell her that you love her and want to have a life with her, but that you can't stand to see her being so intimate with other men. What should have been a harmless dance turned inappropriate...

HOWEVER...the ex who approached her should be the one you are angry with, not your fiance...she was in an impaired/vulnerable state having had a bit to drink, and he used that against her to benefit himself. He should have preserved her integrity and respected her and YOU by not manipulating her into a compromising situation.

So you might caution your fiance to be more considerate of you, and more careful when under the influence...remind her that you have two young children and a beautiful future together but that you have to respect each other.

You did the right thing in breaking up that situation...but that IS your job. Inevitably, your woman's integrity will be compromised when she is vulnerable; instead of being angry with her, you should be proud of yourself that you were there to be her protector when she was unable to protect and stand up for herself.

I would be upset with her about it because alcohol isnt always the problem but i would sit down and talk to her about it tell her how u feel when she is sober and try to work things out find out if she still has feelings for him and if so tell her that you need some time and so does she to figure out what she wants. you dont want to jump into something with her maybe having feelings for her ex. im sorry this happened to you and hope everything works out for the best.

Well since u was drinking and having a good time all u can do is blame it on the aaaaalchol..... I went through this many of times with the hubby and my advice to u is payback is a m-fer ... I would go out next weekend and do the same think to her and shell get the hint real quick. good luck

Be thankful you found out what a whore she is before you got married. If she did that right in front of you, imagine what she would have done if you weren't. And don't buy "it was the alcohol" bulls**t.

Throw her cheap a** out IMMEDIATELY. Consult an attorney to figure out what you do about your kids.

Consider yourself lucky. It would have been a lot more expensive next year.

WOW alcohol does make you do pretty stupid stuff but you need to talk to her then it will take you some time to get over it i hope this is not going down hill from now on, you might wanna listen to her and figure out if it was the alcohol i hope this works out for the kids. its wrong what she did though