Christians: Is it wrong to have sex with a married man?

The Bible calls it adultery and it is very serious in God's eyes.........

"Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God."

I Corinthians 6:9-11

Only sincere repentance (changing your ways) and faith in the shed blood of Jesus Christ, come down from heaven, crucified for sinners and raised from the dead, can save you from the punishment of God.

There was a woman that had an affair with a married man (living with his wife), for over 5 years. Never enjoyed a public restaurant, or a play, or was able to be with him when he was sick, or the holidays, she was always alone. Then he finally got a divorce. They married, great she thought. Then one day she finds out he is having an affair with his "new" secretary ... seems bad habits are hard to break.

By the Noahite Laws, once a couple couples, they are spiritually married, paper or not. Greeks, Romans & Egyptians redefined their own view. Romans didn't need sex to make the marriage legal, just a paper. He could even "borrow" an associate's wife when she was pregnant & keep the child as his own. Adultery was when the citizen ran off with another citizen's wife (sex with slaves, men or women, boys or girls was ok)--like Paul was punished for adultery as a citizen & had his head shaved. Christianity took on the pagan view, if you couldn't control your sexual desires, then marry or be castrated. Nuns in the church "married" Jesus & even wore a wedding gown on the day of their final vows. How many saints were married and make saints? None. They were either widows, widowers, monks or nuns. Even in the Church of England they have monk & nuns. Islam has an estoteric group that denies earthly pleasures, including sex. Women have been babymakers or saints, couldn't be both unless "virgins" like the pagan gods and goddesses. Even today, in many Orthodox religious circles, if a child is crowning & could die with the mother, it is ok for doctors to save the child and not the mother. I would think selfishness of using sex for purely pleasure is an insult to a spouse no matter what religion you believe in. In some Islamic circles, temporary marriages for 4 hours or so is ok, so is raping a wife that says no. Raping a wife in some Christian circles is considered a husband's right, as well as only having relations during her cycle to avoid a pregnancy. So, check with each sect or denomination.

But by Jewish law a woman can voice her opinion and not marry or have kids, as doing so can endanger her life. A Jewish woman engaged is a contract, if broken they need a court order or GET. If they are to marry, the male signs a contract, gives her gifts, promises a lot in writing, she doesn't have to promise anything & all she brings to the home, is her's. Even provision in contract for providing for her and children if there is a religious divorce, a GET. Same today.

It's adultery, no matter if she's not married, HE is, so she is still committing adultery.

Depending on the other multiple people, it can be fornication as well if some are not married, or multiple counts of adultery if some of the others are married.

Personally, I don't see a lot wrong with it so long as everybody is honest in their agreements with partners, and taking steps to avoid both disease and pregnancy.

My wife thinks it's wrong to have sex with a married man.

Adultery is not only wrong according to the Bible (Matt 5:28; 15:19; 1 Cor 6:9), it's also unlawful by legal standards.

That is not 'ok'. She sounds like a sex addict. Just because she calls herself Christian and goes to church does not mean that she is a true Christian. Christians do make mistakes and sin but I don't think any true Christian with the Holy Spirit in their heart would be able to do those things continuously and definitely not without terrible guilt and shame for it. She has lost her way and separated herself from God. If she repents and changes her ways she might still be able to receive forgiveness. But those acts are definitely not Christian.

I don't have an issue with anyone going out and having a bit of fun, but with someones husband? Sorry but that's not a very nice person that does this kind of thing.

I don't think one can ever be sure of one's judgement until one know all the circumstances - but this sounds very wrong indeed.

Doing bad things is no problem for a protestant: works (what you do) doesn't count with them, only faith.

It is wrong to have sex outside a wedlock. Scriptures are clear on this.

Either; she has deep seated emotional issues to contend with or if she is deliberately doing her thing "on purpose" or intentionally for no reason apart from lust then, she is kidding herself ! Christians are called to be different - not INdifferent.