Got her flowers, do I have the right to be angry?

Yeah...you overreacted because you did not receive the response you anticipated. If you had told her why you bought the flowers and what you were thinking about during your drive home, her mood would have immediately changed and you would have then received the response from her that you wanted.

The thing is...you were thinking love thoughts about your wife, so you were in this love mood. However...normally when many husbands unexpectedly bring home flowers for no reason, it's to apologize for something. By turning instantly ugly instead of answering her question, you turned a nice evening into an unpleasant one.

Now back away from the keyboard and call your wife. Tell her that you're sorry for your response...and tell her that you bought the flowers because you were feeling so in love with her.

BTW...if it helps.....sometimes I'll walk in the door and instead of greeting me with a hug and a kiss, my husband will snarl something like "you forgot to lock the back door when you left this morning." Well, screw you. My good mood instantly vaporized. He still could have told me this, it puts me in an unpleasant mood. Normally, I try to take a moment or two and put his comment into perspective instead of broodinig about it...so that way the whole evening isn't ruined by one moment of stupidity on my partner's part.

Yes you have a right to be angry. Those are your feelings and you are entitled to them.

There seems to be something more going on here. U are not telling all.

Why was it hard, after you calmed down, to have a conversation with your wife about the situation, your feelings, your intentions. You "brooding on the sofa trying to watch the news and she is yelling..." Her reaction does not seem to be normal and yours, far too casual and condensing. U state in your situation that it took you "15 min to get the right ones (flowers) ". I find it interesting as you are picking out flowers for your wife you paid attention to the time.

If you were innocent of any wrong doing, you would have attempted to correct this and tried to have had a pleasant evening. Remember, you said you were in a "great mood"? How could you allow it be ruined so fast, if you intentions were noble? You seemed far too content on her ongoing rants, as you "professionally" ignored her. U seemed to have further fueled the fire by your actions.

Yeah, you have the right to be angry...with yourself!

There is so much joking about the guy who buys his wife flowers because hes done something that its almost a universal thing when he does it for no discernible reason.

You are a grown up, you don't have the right to be pissed off and hurt over such a little thing. Its just a minor misunderstanding. Now you can buy her flowers with a reason, you overreacted and you are sorry.

As to what she's done for you lately? Has she cooked dinner? Done laundry? Cared for your kids or parents? Had a party and included your family? Picked up your dry cleaning? Paid the bills, gone to her job? Gone to the store for groceries?

Sent your mom or dad a birthday card?

If she hasn't done any of those things then you can sit there and sulk.

If she has then you have been overlooking an awful lot and she'd have more reason than you for being pissed off and hurt.

Okay I take it when she said "what did you do?" it was a serious tone and not a cheerful smile, reaching for flowers, *gasp* "What did you do?". In the second case (with a smile) she was joking. If she was serious perhaps there is something bothering her. Maybe she wants to spend more time with you and be together more.

If she started accusing you then...yes, you have a right to be hurt. But, if you haven't been nuturing your relationship then you have a problem. You need to let her know you want to make it stronger and spend more time together.

Put your anger aside and let her know you were hurt.

Good luck!

You are both to blame for what happened ! You for not staying on top of your relationship with her. Too much taking her for granted, I would say ! Then flying off the handle with her !

And her for not giving you the benefit of doubt !

Twelve years ! Do you not think the two of you need some time away from everyone else ? To just spend some quality time together !

If there is something missing in your 12 year marriage you better start looking for it ! You only have 28 more years to catch up to me and mine. You think the way your going you can do it ?

well,,for our girls wen a guy give us flowers theirs only 2 meaning 1st when we have occasion and 2nd when a guy did something wrong. Well maybe she just really misunderstand it. And wrong for you too you didn't think about it. And yeah why didn't you explain it to her. You should told her that "im so happy to have you(and in the same time giving her the flowers). Anyway maybe she act like that because its been a while you didn't her something like that,that give her a surprise.

It will be ok if you give effort again expalining it to her.

advice.......GIVE HER ANOTHER SET OF FLOWER...but this time tell her why your gving it to her....say i love you and also sorry fo not expalining...

poor flower..you wasted it:Dyou choose it for like 15 minutes and yeah for just a secong it ended up in the truck,,,heheheh

you can do it she loves you and you love her

goodluck:D

Oh dear... my wife would probably do the same. But I'm not the type who buys flowers all the time. So in my case such a reaction may be appropriate.

I think you overreacted. You could have replied with a humorous phrase, like "Yeah, guess what I did?" or something, and then you could have been joking about it.

Your wife's reaction was quite - understandable.

Maybe she meant it as a joke? Either way, that wasn't very funny. You are also part to blame for reacting the way you did. You should be asking yourself why you would want to buy your wife a gift, wave it around in her face and then destroy it right in front of her. She should be asking herself why she can't just accept a gift from you without assuming there are strings attached. It sounds like you both have been suppressing your true feelings about your relationship and you need to talk about it asap.

Wow. You sound like a drama queen. What a baby! And, then going to sulk on the couch? Dick. Yeah, you overreacted big time. Why couldn't you have answered her question (which was probably supposed to be funny), or have calmly said that she just ruined your mood with that insinuation and explained your intention with the gift? In one quick instant she doesn't deserve the flowers anymore, so much so that you have to kill them with your car? Yeah, not cool.

I'm sorry, but that was funny to me

Now on a serious note....you totally over reacted...her response wasn't the best, but your behavior was so uncalled for...very childish I might add...if she is so wonderful then let her know that you were hurt by here response and simply got them because she makes your heart smile. I'm sure if you put it like that to her, she will give you an apology and maybe some "brain talk". Good luck!