Possible Depression Question and Answers, Please?

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Sorry if this is a long story but you can't give real answers if I don't give the full story. 
To start, I've suffered with depression most my life. I've been hospitalized 4 times cause medication problems. Never longer then 7 days. I felt numb, suicidal, isolated, etc.

My partner of 9 yrs just left me 2 weeks ago. She keeps saying she has to find herself. I finally got her to meet me for coffee tonight and talk. She was saying some of the similar things. She feels numb, she can't even function and think clearly through the day. She stays with a friend and stays in her room most of the time but she will go out on the weekends with them when they go out, so not isolating all the time. She said she feels sad but I don't know if that sadness is because her and I are apart. A week ago she didn't think she needed to talk to anyone. Tonight she said she thinks it would help. I also think some anti depressants would help. 

When I was depressed I never pushed her away though. I needed her by my side. Why would she push me away? I haven't seen this side of depression. I really want to help her if this is what it is. What can I do? I want her to get the help she needs, be by herside without pushing and so we can be a family again with my daughter (whom my partner has been in her life for 9yrs). She is thining of going to see a Dr. but doesn't know if she wants me there with her? Why? I know her everything. We have been together 9yrs. 

There is no one else and we have never cheated on each other. I don't think she has ever experienced depression before except 17yrs ago when she gave up drugs (good for her). 

Any advice, links would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks in advance.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i will say give her space. i'm going through depression as well and when i'm depressed i need to b alone. i'm not saying don't b with her,,just make her feel u r there for her whn she'll need u and let her get counsling by her own don't go with her unless she wants u too. and provide al the help u can for her. during her normal times sit with her, talk to her if u can on a quit and peacful place so in her bad depression period she will feel not that bad. just listen to her what she wants if she don't wanna talk don't talk.. gud luck.

Anonymous · Answer

about 5 years ago, I started to fall into a really depressive episode. At first I thought it was only because I had a bad break from a relationship but the feelings wouldn't go away even after I got a new girlfriend. It was wrecking my life until a point where it was seriously affecting my work and personal life.

She was very worried but at the same time couldn't understand why I was still sad and thought that I still couldn't let go of my previous relationship. Being the wonderful person that she is, she put aside her feelings and suggested I go for psychiatric evaluation. Many months later and even more anti-depressants, I was not coming close to being better at all.

After doing some research online, I found out the real cause as you described it really makes a lot of sense and purchased this program. The results were simply astonishing. I read this book over three times and put all words in action. Using this method, I've kept my depression at bay ever since. Up to date I'm still living happily with my girlfriend.

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bschrieves · Answer

This is a very serious question, and I don't know if anybody on this site will be able to answer it fully.  I already had to report an extremely insulting answer.

Perhaps it would be better if you discussed this with a therapist instead of the Yahoo! Answers community.  Therapists are here to help with problems, and their services should be considered in situations like this.

I'd like to offer my view on your issue, but I'm afraid of doing more harm than good in the long run.  I am by no means a trained psychologist, so I won't try to fulfill the role of one.

I hope you and your partner can work this out soon.

? · Answer

Depression is a bit different in everyone. I am similar to you in the sense that when I get depressed, I feel like I really need my partner. But my partner, who also suffers from depression, pushes people away and isolates himself when he is feeling depressed. He tells me that it is nothing against me, it's just the way he is. It is possible that she is not trying to get away from you because she hates you... but more because that is how she reacts when she is depressed and confused about her life. Some people, when faced with issues, want to be alone. The fact that she says she wants to find herself tells me that she is very uncertain about who she is and what she wants from life. Let her go to the doctor by herself... don't allow yourself to think that she is hiding things from you... depression is such a strange matter that is hard to discuss with loved ones in the same room. 

I wish the best for you both and I hope she decides that you are an important element of her happiness and well-being. :) Good luck!

Lindsay · Answer

Smothering her isn't going to help. It will make her push you away even more. You mean well and it's obvious you love her with all of your heart, but sometimes people have to go through things on their own. Just let her know you're there for her and support her.

Anonymous · Answer

Depending on what is upsetting determines if i push you away or pull you close. Just be there for her, theres not much more you can do. I'm sorry i know how bad this hurts. Just show her love and support. Encouragement and understanding.

xxgothikadancerxx · Answer

everyone copes with depression in different ways
a lot of people push everyone away
just be there for her
she'll come around

kidofchaos · Answer

I'm no doctor, but i recommend that you do not take any prescribed antidepressants. i suggest a more natural cure.
http://www.healthier-you.com/Herbal-Antidepressants.asp

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