would you let your partner/husband meet up with an old flame? might be a lengthy question - sorry?

Well I can tell you that no way would I want my husband going to help another woman unpack or get organized or anything else. I don't care who she is. If she isn't family, that is highly inappropriate. The fact that he had some sort of "thing" for this girl makes it even more inappropriate. He shouldn't even be considering going (especially without you) if you ask me. I would tell him that you are not comfortable with him going or the fact that he even wants to.

Have your son start reading the explanations around the latest Quantum Physics theories. The Big Bang is being replaced with 2 branes brushing contact and energy/matter whooshes from the fuller one to the empty one. There are stacked overlapping branes. There are 10+1 dimensions in our universe (you and I know of 4 and are just beginning to understand a 5th). After that, conversations about religion and paranormal are much more fun. Especially when you talk to the "got all the answers why that is nonsense" people. "Magic is impossible because of the law of energy/matter. Cannot be destroyed only converted so if we cant measure a change in one or the other then nothing happened." Unless you consider that the universe was created by matter/energy from a source we cannot yet measure. "If God created the universe then where did he stand to do it?" In the other brane and poked his finger thru. Try to keep up. "If there was paranormal or god or satan wouldnt we have proof?" So far we can prove 4 of the 10+1 dimensions. What if paranormal is the stacked brane above us. Or the dimension above us? What if God is the 10th? What if Satan is the +1 (the +1 is chaos which maintains the natural balance of the other 10). We would have no more understanding than a 2 dimensional creature (amoeba) has of us. Yeah I know its a stretch. But its a fun stretch. :)

If I were you, I probably would have ended the relationship after the first set of pictures appeared in his email. I would absolutely not be ok with him doing this for her. There is obviously something between them, And most importantly if she is sending him these pictures she obviously wants more grom him then a friendship and doesn't care about you. I think you should evaluate your relationship with your fiance. Where is his heart? Maybe your relatioship needs counseling or a break,You don't deserve to be treated tis way. But I also think you should tell him that if you find him contacting her in any way in the future it will be over. I would have him tell her he does not want her in his life and he wants his relationship with you and your family to work. Most importantly have him make the call with you in the room on speakerphone. This way you can hear if she says anything you may want to know. Good Luck!

Well me being the type of person I am I would probably give him an ultimatum. But that probably wouldn't work out for the best because he would probably just get pissed off. Because that's what men tend to do when they think women are over reacting and in this case he probably thinks your over reacting. I personally don't see it as over reacting and I also don't think that you should let him go help her. I don't see why she doesn't just find another "friend" to help her move. If that is in fact what they plan on doing. Although if it's just going to be the two of them "moving" I highly doubt they are going to be moving furniture and things of that nature. So tell him NO or you could tell him that if he going to go "help" her you would like to come along and meet his "friend". Yeah I understand you don't want to but this way he would probably tell her no or at least rethink going. But if you really think something might happen which from what he's doing it sounds like it could I would highly suggest that you tell him either your both going or he isn't going at all.

I would have left him after I saw the pictures from her the first time, but that's just me. Tell him that it would make you very uncomfortable if he were to go and see her because of these reasons. He'll try to tell you that it's no big deal, but say it's important to you. That it would hurt you if he went. If he doesn't care about your feelings, red flag.

Then tell him that you're sorry, but if he goes it's over. You can't trust this girl because of her behavior before and the fact that he's done nothing to prove he's trustworthy. Don't let this guy walk all over you. This girl is trouble.

If all of this is true I would be telling him to hit the road. Looking at porn is one thing, but when its someone you know and used to have a thing for and still keep in touch with thats different. And he wants to go spend a day with her helping her move and stuff. Yeah....thats just giving him an opportunity to cheat. I would not be tolorating that in any way, shape or form. I have way more self respect then to let a guy pull that crap on me and you should too.

Wow, that is a lot of info!

Anyway, long story short: I don't know your fiance, and I don't know about your relationship, but if it was me in your situation, I would feel really uncomfortable letting him be alone with this woman.

They apparently have some raunchy history, as well as a mutual attraction - it happens. But since she is still sending him pictures, and because he lied to you about the pictures of her, it seems that maybe their relationship isn't based entirely in the past. It seems like any contact he has with this woman is going to lead to major trust issues in your relationship. I think it's time for your fiance to cut all ties to this woman. Good luck.

Even though you are pregnant i would tag along, just say sure i would like to meet her and i can keep you both company, My best friend moved house by herself at 40 weeks pregnant and she was fine so i am sure you could "help out" by making coffee and such, if your man isnt cheating he will have no reason not to let you hang around, but if he pushes for you to stay home i would be very concerned, also if your not up to helping get a trusted friend or brother to tag along and keep an eay on tehm both. you have every right to check in on him.

first off i wouldnt of ran back to the bedroom i would of walked right up and slapped him in the side of the head and wouldnt of gave him any sex ( and i mean he would still be beggin for it) you shouldnt let him go help her cause she does seem like a hooker and you know deep down something will happen. anyways thats just my thoughts id be damned if my husband went to see an old flame. whether we were married or just bf gf or fiance eff that.!!!

Omg, I wouldnt tolerate ANY of his behavior w/ this woman who obviously does NOT respect you or your relationship. If he respects you, he wouldnt be keeping any contact with her whatsoever. Any masturbating to her pics?!? That would piss me off so bad, I dont think I could forgive him after witnessing that! Its one thing to look at porn for guys, but someone he knows??? And she needs to respect you & not contact your man. It wouldve been out of the question for me to even consider my fiance helping some hoe bag move stuff after all of this. No way! You need to lay it on the line & tell him that he needs to end all contact w/ her & start respecting you & focusing on your pregnancy & tell this tramp to find some other poor sap to help her move. Best of luck & put your foot down!!!