My daughter is dating a guy with a questionable step dad?

My daughter have been dating this guy, Cody who is 24, a mixed martial arts fighter and kick boxer and also owns a large aquarium store that also do pond construction. He also runs a side business out of his own home, selling various tea mixes on line.

Cody seems pretty decent so far. My daughter seems to be totally in love with him and is totally open with him which I’ve never saw her being that way with other guys before.

However what really bothers me is, this Cody’s step father is rather questionable. His step father is a neighbor of a coworker of mine who regularly host a card game night. This man was a tunnel rat before he got into SOG during Vietnam War. After he got out, he made some attempt to box and kickboxing professionally and worked as FBI agent for a long time before he met Cody mother.

Cody was only 3 at the time. They eventually have a son and daughter. But he was in and out of their life due to job until Cody was ten. That’s when he finally settled down and works for local police department.

From what my coworker told me, he told me to keep eyes on Cody for in case he show any exhibition of his step father’s bad side. He told me a lot of things about their relationships. He told me that Cody could end up being like his step father but he hope Cody got lot of his mother (whom is very sweet and caring) good side.

Cody’s step dad was very strict on some subject and very loose on others. Once Cody got caught sneaking into a abandoned factory and was taken to detention center. Step dad didn’t even say a word besides telling him that he’d have to deal with it by himself.

On other hand, when Cody set part of the house on fire playing with a gun powder. Cody thought he got off easy when his step dad didn’t do a thing only to found himself woke up in middle of the night and dumped in a forest 30 miles away and being told to find his own way back home and to think about what it’d be like to be homeless.

Once when Cody was fifteen, he and couple of his friends got drunk and stole his friend’s father’s sport car and totaled it. His mother and step dad nearly divorced because his step dad nearly sent Cody to hospital after beating on him for this.

But he also have done something that is rather questionable such as letting Cody work for a year then help him with paying for his very first out of the country trip by himself for the summer. Cody turned seventeen at the time he was in Europe.

Since I don’t know Cody that well, I can’t help it but feel a bit uneasy about him. I already can see he doesn’t tolerate people too well, is usually rather aloof, hardly show any emotions, extremely cutthroat when it comes to business, and other things that his step dad also exhibited. To make things worse, Cody doesn’t seems fond of children at all!

But my wife says that Cody show lot of his mother’s side toward her and my daughter and is incredible gentle and loving toward my daughter. He also never tried to stop her from living her life. She even told me that once when my daughter told Cody that she’s thinking about doing student exchange program, Cody encouraged her to and helped her look into it.

Should I be worried about him?