how to tell Dad PLEASE HELP?

Hi, my divorce is just final. My Ex was VERY abusive. My dad keeps saying " you can see guys now, or you can date now". I want to scream at him. I do not want to date and he is not hearing that. I am going to school, and helping with family business by building 2 websites. I am sorta ( i do not think you are ever ) healed from the abuse. I feel if God wants a man in my life he will let us meet in HIS (God's) time.. My dad does not understand this. I have a "list" of things i look for in a guy. My dad claims i will never find anyone. I keep telling him if that is how God wants it fine. I want to write to him, tell him how i feel. I feel like he is not respecting my choices, i am 38 years old!!! I feel i have the right to make my own choices. I also feel i am sooooo busy it would not be fair for me or the guy (epically the guy) to get in a relationship right now. No time!! How do i handle this? Every time i try to talk to him, he insists i am wrong i have not written him yet i write better about my feeling then speaking them. The letter would not be negative. just tell him why i am looking for these things. sighs please help. I just want him to come to grips that i have my own way!! I am not even sue why he is doing this!! please help