My fiance's mother was "annoyed" because I bought jewelry for my wedding instead of using the money to add..?

Ignore her, starting an argument with her is just going to cause more fur to fly and she's not worth it.

Dodge as many of her phone calls as you think you can get away with but don't let her pull the "You're ignoring me" card. Avoid talking about the wedding in front of her, if she starts then tell her "Oh, can we not talk about the wedding today, I just want to not think about it for one day" and then change the subject. Or give her half answers and then change the subject ("Oooo, lovely necklace where did you get it?"). In fact, try not to be put in the situation where it's just you and her and tell your fiance that he'd better come rescue you if he sees his mother has cornered you.

If someone mentions to you that MIL thinks you should have added more guests then be honest and tell them that the jewellery came out of your own savings, not the wedding fund. And what do they want, a bride with no jewellery? Shrug her gossip off as inconsequential and soon the other people will start doing it too.

If she carries on about wanting extra guests then tell her that she'd have to foot the extra expenses because you and FH have X amount and won't go into debt for your wedding because to do that is just stupid. Now if she's the sort that will actually foot the bill then limit her extras, tell that you can add an extra 5 or ten or however many but only if she foots the extra bill. And if she brings up the jewellery, again tell her it came from your personal savings and not the wedding fund and that you're not dipping into savings to finance the wedding.

And for crying in a bucket, kick your fiance up the bum! It's HIS mother, he needs to deal with her and tell her to back off. How would he feel if your mother was harassing him about the guests and food and clothes etc etc? Bet you he'd run for the nearest judge to get a civil union. He needs to step up to the plate NOW!

Good luck.

With a person like your mother-in-law, there is only one thing you can do - IGNORE. Limit your contact with her to only as much as is polite. When she brings up the wedding plans, say "Thanks for your input, Susan. We'll have to give it some thought" and then change the subject away from the wedding entirely. If she brings up the jewelry issue specifically, just say, in a very polite tone, "Actually, we're happy with the size of the wedding as it is. I feel fortunate that I'm financially stable enough to be able to have a nice wedding and some lovely jewelry." And again, change the subject immediately to something not wedding-related.

Just accept that no matter what you do, she won't be pleased and will find something to complain about. Try not to take it personally and try not to let her get under your skin. Just be polite and don't let her engage you in an argument. That way, you can be the bigger person and feel superior.

I hear you 100% my fiancee mother is the same way well in the opposite regard she was telling me I was flat out stupid for choosing to have real flowers at my wedding because they are too expensive. And i quote "Well i just don't understand why you don't have your wedding in our backyard and then the reception in the HIGH SCHOOL gym and have fake flowers and buy a davids bridal dress for 99 dollars and have me and your mom make all the food. Its just stupid your spending all this money when you could be saving it...its Just stupid" ...now after that rant of hers i don't tell anyone anything. I don't want to have a hilbilly wedding. Please! I mean SHE had her wedding its my Wedding and my fiancee is the same way he wont saying anything cuz she annoys him too. But we are having a nice wedding whether she likes it or not. I want real flowers I want a Church reception I want my beautiful dress no matter the price I want a beautiful ballroom to dance in not a high school where i went to prom PLEASE! my advice is to do whatever you want and ignore everything else or else you will regret it! Its your fiancee and your big day do what you want it sounds like you compromised enough with the church wedding so now you be a bridezilla and get what will truly make you happy that day! And congrats on the wedding!!

okay- listen closely,

be secretive about every single on of your actions from now on, your fiance's mother doesn't have to know everything about the arrangements! how the hell did she found out you splurged on jewelery? goodness, listen- keep your respect with her and be nice, she will be there throughout your future whether your want to or not, and having a mother in law on your bad side is the worst you could ever ask for, just be polite and tell her that you and your husband decided that you wanted to have more of a private/ medium wedding, rather than having all of these people who are not ever close to you, tell her that you have no problem adding 5 more people if she insists, but no more... tell her that your uncle (use whomever) gave you the money to cover for your jewelery expenses, and that you would rather save the money that's left for future expenses, you have your whole future to build up together, and it's really not smart to put all of your money into a single day.

just be polite and respectful, don't show any emotions, she will simply keep annoying the **** ouutta you if you join her in this game.

wish you the best of luck

and happy wedding!

If you let her set the details for your wedding now she is going to control your life forever. Put your foot down woman! If you do not want to get married in a church, don't you dare get married in a church. The mother in law will get over it and not try to push you around in the future. Be a woman. Take control of your own life, or you will be looking back regretting things and it will be too late to do anything about it.

The problem here is more with your fiance than his mother. His excuse might be that she's "annoying", but that's just a rationale for letting her trample over what you want. I honestly think you've been way too nice during all this, and it's overdue for you to put your foot down with him. If he can't stand up to her on a wedding issue, what happens when you buy your home or have a child?

Of course she's way overstepping her bounds with you. But the one person who can stop her is allowing it to happen.

That is very rude and presumptuous for her to tell you where and how to spend your money. Personally I would make it a point not to share anything to do with finances with her. Come to think of it, I would limit most things from her. It seems she would have an opinion on everything and doesn't hesitate to share with others. Your fiance needs to step up and deal with her, this is your wedding that YOU are paying for. Her opinion is noted but not needed.

You bought jewelry with your own saved money, I don't see why she has any reason to be upset - after all, you're the bride!

If she wants more guests to be able to come, she should put up more money towards the reception herself. I can't stand people like that who crave drama any way they can get it.

I hope all works out for you!!

I think is very ridiculous to spend that kind of money on a customized doll for their 1 year daughter that they could have used the money instead to set a college education fund up for her

I agree if your the ones paying for the wedding it is no one elses buisness how much you spend on what! It's your day! If they would be contributing then they would have some say in it. Who's to say your jewlery is or isn't a knock-off or how much you paid for it.