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Oh the joys of motherhood!?
Okay my son is 3 and is a typical 3 year old in most aspects. My issue comes with his behavior around more than 3 people. Last night we celebrated Thanksgiving with part of our family and my son refuses to listen. Typically in these situations we will just pack up and go but I don't do this on Holiday's because I think you need to spend the time with your family. And I love being around my family and don't think I should be punished because my son doesn't behave right. But even after we come home like today he is acting the same way he did last night. In a few days he will start listening and behaving normally but this morning he has gotten a stool climbed up and gotten a steak knife out of the knife block, sprayed hand sanitizer in his eye, and went into the bathroom and squirted his soap all over. How can I get him to behave around groups of people and even after we get back home! I do spank him (my mind will not be changed on spanking I think a big issue with kids these days, is that they aren't spanked) I use time-out, I take privileges away. Nothing works. I am a stay at home and the main disciplinarian in our family which I am also fine with but I want to be able to take my kid somewhere and have him listen and behave! I don't want to be embarrassed by his behavior. And he doesn't act like this all the time, My girlfriend and I went to lunch with her mom last week and he was amazing, he sat down, ate his lunch, and played quietly while we talked and ate our lunch. I understand that his is 3 and isn't going to be a perfect child all the time and will run around, I m fine with that but when I tell him to stop I want him to stop! Please no cookie cutter answers, they don't work I have tried them. Also if we are at a store and he acts out because he wants a toy and doesn't get it I will quit taking him with me for a few weeks and explain why he can't go and that typically fixes that behavior but it does need to be re-enforced every now and then. But I can't not go to Christmas with my family because he isn't listening! HELP!!!
As for the last person that answered the question, I am not venting, I am asking for help on correcting this issue, thank you!
6 Answers
- Amber ELv 51 decade agoFavorite Answer
This is totally normal 3 year old behavior, and he is just testing limits. He knows he has gotten away with this attrocious behavior before when he is at large gatherings and wants to see if he still can. You need to find a consistent way to discipline him if it continues. (i.e. sitting in the car buckled into the car seat as a time out; having to sit on your lap and fold his arms; etc.) Also, make sure your family knows the rules and does not undermine you. (I know my mother tends to be the "good grammy" by giving my daughter treats I said no to, and my dad tells her she can have stuff without asking me...so we had to have a chat.) His behavior might get a little worse the first couple of times you use your consequence, but he will learn what his limits are in big groups, too.
Good luck!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
He is old enough for spankings. Not all kids are the same, and all react differently to different punishmenst, but what seems to work for my kids and my brothers kids is to spank them (swat that booty firmly, but not hard, and as many times as their age, if he is three, he should never be swatted more than three times.) then place him in time out and tell him that he has to sit there for three minuets. After three minuets go pick him up, kiss him, tell him that you love him and then explain to him in terms he can understand what he did that was bad. Be sure after you explain it to him to let him ask questions "why was it bad" "who decideds what is bad" and such and be sure to answer all of his questions calmly. Then YOU start asking questions, ask him to tell you what he did bad, why it was bad and what will happen if he does it again. This is important to make sure he not only was listening to you, but also to make sure he understood what you were saying.
- 1 decade ago
Introduce clear rules and what will follow if they are broken. That should be spankings; your son is old enough. Enforce exactly the rules as given by you, and I'm sure it will work. If your son knows in advance what will happen, he will think twice - at least after his experience with breaking the rule.
- tazman111Lv 51 decade ago
did you think of a baby sitter? it seems that your son knows if he is bad he does not get to go with you and he behaves. leave him behind and when you come home come home eating ice cream cones. he will see this and when he asks for his explain that he did not go so he did not get any. you can not bring it home because it will melt. as for getting a knife yes i would have smacked his hand so dang hard he would think it was broken. i personally think that he is feeling left out , ignored by you, or i know my parents would always have us sit down and it was boring as crap. so this is not fun for him. even some times we embarrass our children and they do not like this type of attention.small settings he still gets his attention that he needs from you
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
Please don't vent on us!
