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my girlfriend is a carer for a paraplegic, is it acceptable for him to say something like this to her?
tonight she calls me, upset that he told her she is too skinny.. which she isnt by the way, she just has a small build, she eats like a horse,, but anyway, she didnt want to say anything to him incase she gets in trouble from her employer, personally i think she should have told him where to stick his comments, but she is a lot nicer than me, anyway, just wondering what you would suggest, or what you would have done in this situation ???
4 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
It may have been inappropriate--but it probably wasn't meant to be. My guess is that the parapalegic person for whom your girlfriend is a caregiver does not have access to a huge number of people and--considering his malady--often finds himself sharing rather...private...moments with her. This may not be the sort of intimacy that most of us would like to experience but it certainly requires a huge degree of trust on the patient's part.
Maybe your girlfriend only sees a patient or an employer...but the person she assists sees a human being with whom he has a relationship...and not necessarily an unhealthy one.
The guy may have overstepped a boundary, but unless it is part of a larger pattern of sexual harassment I don't think you (or she) should make a big deal of it.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Well um to be honest if a paraplegic is saying mean comments about others bodies to be honest I probably wouldnt pay attention. It would be unkind of her to say something back like 'at least i can walk' so if i was her id probably say 'ok thats your opinion - my boyfriend is happy with my weight and i dont have an issue with it.' Then if he keeps saying it i would say 'look im here to care for you not take your insults, im not really interested in hearing them.'
- 1 decade ago
He probably didn't mean it in a bad way. Alot of times men say things like that thinking that women will inadvertently take it as a compliment. Dumb, I know. Anyways, he shouldn't say things like that, it can be construed as harassment and since she's bothered by this she should tell her employer about it and let him deal with it so there are no future comments.
- 1 decade ago
its totally not a big deal.Especially if hes older than her.Elders always spat crazy stuff.And it wasnt that rude.
