First moms, if you could say anything now to the adoption counselor or social worker who facilitated...?

I would wish to tell her to go screw herself, because she was NOT going to screw me again. Then I would tell her that if she thinks that adoption is such a great thing, and that these poor people who have been waiting for 8 infertile years would be disappointed by not getting a baby, that she should hurry up and have one for them, because I would be keeping mine now, thank you very much.

I would also tell her that if she continued trying to hit on my father, that I would tell my mother about it and my mother would clean her clock....that's the truth.

I would ask Hannah Sidransky how she could look herself in the mirror after all the lies and coersive tactics she used on me? She brought me a document to sign in the recovery room that she said was a release for my baby and I to go back to the Booth Home. However, it was in actuality releasing the rights to my child to her and her agency.

I would ask her why she invalidated my pain by telling me when I would call over the years that I was the ONLY mother she had ever dealt with who hadn't been able to forget and get on with my life. Good old Hannah tried to make me feel there was something wrong with me because I would call periodically to ask to have updates and letters put into my son's file should he ever want to find me.

Oh yes and she told me a doctor was adopting my son and how could I dare think as a young single 18 year old that I could give my baby what a doctor could provide? But it turned out that the adoptive father never even went to college.

This social wrecker was so dismissive and cruel to a poor young 18 year old begging to keep her baby - what a monster!

Hannah is long dead. She died before I found my son in 1990 and learned of the extent of all her lies. But I would love to have told her that I really didn't appreciate being treated as just a womb and having my heart ripped out and my soul raped and I hope she is rotting in hell.

I've learned the hard way that lying is ok in court. That attorneys and judges know it's happening and they don't care. It's promoted as law, "open adoption".

Don't all the kids who've been adopted in the last couple of decades that I know of, know that all their mothers were promised an "open adoption?" How can they ever learn to trust another adult. Imagine when you become an adult that you find out that everthing your AP's told you was based on a lie? Blood is thicker than water, genetics play a great role in how the children will react. The apples don't fall far from the tree.

As you know I didn't choose adoption but if I did see the witch aka social wrecker involved in my son's adoption I would be calling her a an evil, lying *****. Then I would be telling her exactly what she lied to me about and the rest of what she told me was nothing more than uninformed garbage. She was the one who told me to get on with my life (other option was suicide), I would forget about him - I didn't, I would have more children - I didn't but not from choice, that I would never be allowed to search - not true and he could search from the age 18 but would be too happy to do that - again not true. She is probably dead now and if she is I wish I could dance her grave and yell about how wrong she got it.

Wow, I only read a few of those and now I'm happy I did a private adoption. The adoptive parents had a lawyer and he did all the paperwork. When she was born the adoptive parents brought what I needed to sign with them, all I had to do was mail it back. It was not a bad experience. I feel like I could of taken care of my daughter now, I realized this just a few months after I had her, I still wish I had her, but I know the family she is with is perfect. My daughter, who would of been raised my a single mom and thats it now has a mom, dad, and a sister. I think its amazing.

It took me a few years (2-3) to realize that what I had done wasn't dripping with selflessness.

First thing I would say is"Thanks for not returning ANY of my calls once the ink was dry" It made me feel very special.

Followed by " Thank you for LYING about my age, not knowing her father, being a run away, and on drugs" It pitted anyone associated with her growing up, against me, and I will forever be seen that way in some of their eyes. The nasty little birth whore.

Thanks also for telling me I would be ARRESTED if I tried to contact her. It cost me 10 years of reunion.

Next would be "You never told me her OBC would be sealed away from her FOREVER"

Lastly would be "In-spite of all your efforts, we DID manage to reunite and it has been successful"

like sly i would tell her to go SCREW herself that my child is not a gift

my child has a mother who loves him very much and just needs a little

support to get on my feet to make a home for me and my child

social workers are bitches and they should burn in hell for what they did to so many women who now after 40 years are really feeling the impact that adoption did on their life like ptsd and trusting people

is a major part of that for me

brainwashing is what was done in the 1960's along with the line

go on with your life as if it never happened

you will forget when i am dead will i forget

you will have other children!!!!!!!

Mine wasn't like most. My daughter's adopters were the main "facilitators" and I am saving what I want to say to them until after my daughter is an adult and already knows what happened as what I have to say to them actually isn't to do with her but what they did to me whilst I was having her and in the days following BEFORE they took her.

I have already told people who were coercive that they may have thought it was a good thing they were doing but the part they played was very destructive and they were responsible for much damage. I even wrote and told the Judge who worked to take her away from me what I thought... not rudely, just that he obviously did not have all the facts of the case and what he did was wrong. I faced the lawyer of my daughter's adopters and told him he was a weasel and what he did was plain outright evil and damned him to hell (granted this was within days of losing my daughter and he happened to "bump" into me).

I have told the counsellor I turned to for help and betrayed me she was nasty and due to her involvement on my case she was removed as a counsellor.

There are just a few people left in my line of fire... and I am biding my time. I am not hateful, I am not wanting to blast them but I do want them to know they were wrong and they did more damage than good and they should look to assist women in my situation, not line up for my child, or blatantly lie about their involvement as a few of them have.

Oh, and I also wrote and called out my pastor on HIS lies to my parents about what he did to me.

So yeah... I don't believe in keeping hold of this forever. The people who did me damage will know about it because I don't want them having that power to do it to any one else. I was a victim but I am not staying that way. People need to wear the consequences of THEIR actions.

I would tell her that I pray nightly for her family to experience never-ending separation throughout all the generations that follow her.

If I ever saw that woman again there would not be a lot of talking going on. It is probably a good thing for both of us that she transferred out of state 2 days later