Here's my dilemma. My 10 month old daughter refuses to sleep by herself.?

I had the best luck putting my baby in his own room and his own bed at the same time. As long as he didn't see me he was fine, (after the first few nights of screaming bloody murder of course.) If you put a hot water bottle next to her it might help, my son cuddles up to his.

Also what might help, is don't let her fall asleep in your room, or feed her in your room. Bring her to her own room and if you have to pace the nursery till she falls asleep with breast or bottle, so be it.

I feel your pain and I'm sorry you are all going through this right now... my son had to sleep the same exact way for months and months and I don't care what anyone on here says about you doing the cry it out thing... we did and it took FOREVER!!! but it worked.... your daughter will not remember that when she's older and no it will not effect her as a grown person... that's all a bunch of crap if you ask me. I think it's more important that she has a mommy that is awake and able to help her throughout the day then a mommy who is getting no sleep to make the baby happy. You need to be able to get your sleep so you can provide for her too... remember that! I would move the crib and put her in it.... try using the crib during the day as a play zone... put her in it with toys and books... stay in there with her for a while and give her some alone time too... this is what we did with my son and it really worked. He still cries sometimes when he put him in the crib at night, but usually he goes right to sleep or plays with his bear for a moment and then falls asleep... you are doing the right thing!!! Good luck! Hope some of this helps!

controlled crying. All that rocking and soothing is making her think of that if she wakes contained in the night she is rewarded. Your job is to make her think of it is not nicely worth waking up. while she wakes at night, bypass in and stroke her head, say 'that's time for sleep' and bypass out back. If she cries go away it 5 minutes and bypass back in and repeat. Now try this each and every 10 minutes and finally she will have the skill to nod off, it would take 2 hours the 1st ngiht yet she will have the skill to. Repeat this each and every night and the crying era gets shorter until eventually after a million week or so which you will wake contained in the morning and recognize you have slept all night! undergo in techniques that for the period of spite of the actuality that she is disillusioned via this now, that's doing her stable contained in the long term as she grows right into a toddler she will have the skill to choose a lot of uninterrupted sleep to play and be chuffed. And maximum heavily a chuffed, nicely rested Mummy skill a chuffed toddler! stable luck

I have a 10month old son too and he wont fall asleep by himself either, he looks to be cuddled to sleep and then if i put him in his cot he will wake at around 2am and cry so that he can be cuddled back to sleep again. I also would like to put him in his own room. I forget sometimes that at 10months they are still young babies and need alot of love and cuddles but i understand where you are coming from. Dont get worked up about it if possible, this time in there life is so short compared to the rest of it, they will soon want to be in their own room and want to feel grown up! xx

"She will scream and shake the crib for hours...."

"the week and a half of letting her scream it out"

Good grief. Cuddle that poor baby to sleep! No baby should be left to "scream" while going to sleep. Sleep should be a peaceful time, not a time of her screaming and crying because she wants some cuddles from Mommy. Move her crib into her own room but do not force her to go to sleep on her own if she needs you.

Believe me, you'll miss these times when you have a 20 month old that doesn't want/need you to rock them to sleep at night or to even cuddle with you unless they are hurt. I WISH my son would fall asleep in my arms still but he's gotten quite independent and wants to sleep on his own.

Both of my babies slept with me. Now my 3 year old will sleep in her own big girl bed. I just let her sleep with you now you will miss that later. Cuddle them as long as you can. I feel it gives you a better bond.

I'm not sure what would be psychologically easier for both of you, but personally I would think moving her to her own room now is the best thing. I would think it would be easier on her if she can't see you, and easier on you to be able to move around without worrying about whether or not she can see you or knows you are awake. I say do both at the same time. Good luck!

Why the fight?why all this pressure to make her sleep by herself???

You are saying you made a mistake by being a good mother and consoling your child and letting her sleep with you?? Did that not make you life better, easier and happier??

If sleeping with you makes your household a peaceful and enjoyable place, then let it be!

do NOT let her scream and cry it out.....that is just awful and you are teaching her nothing other than you don't care for her feeling and NEEDS.....she is not controlling you or throwing a fit for no reason....her instincts are telling her to be near you

It's fine to move it and start the screaming again. You are the real problem here. You're sending her mixed messages. Make a decision and stick with it.