What should i do with the father?

You should stop letting him seeing your child until him and his new girlfriend sort their act out. Its not safe, a baby being around fully grown adults who are drunk out of their minds. It could also be dangerous, and it's just not worth the risk if anything DID happen to him. Tell your ex that he must sort out his act, start acting like an adult and a FATHER if he wants to continue seeing his son. Thats what i'd say and do anyway :P

"BUT now he has this new gf they get drunk everyweekend, whilst hes in control of my son. walking him up on new years day at midnight to take him out in the cold without a blanket too, and he was very very drunk.. Proof is there due to his facebook profile pic! his gf has a little girl and shes being put into the same situation too..."

If you have SOLID proof, I mean are able to PROVE he was .10 or whatever the BAC is for being drunk, take this up with a lawyer. Having a few drinks doesn't constitute drunk.

Also, get with a lawyer and have child support deducted from his pay.

I would advise you not to be having sex again until your wedding night, so you don't wind up making a baby with another loser. And you will have ZERO confusion about where you stand with the guy.

If you honestly believe your child is being put in a bad situation, call the police every time it happens and have charges filed on him.

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Gather all the proof you can find and get a layer. Without proof you got nothing. Your child's safety is at stake here so act fast cause cases can get a long time to be resolved.

Plus, by law he is to give you money according to his salary or he could go to jail. You don't have to show him your receipts (it sonds like he's defending himself... mayvbe the stuff he get for your child are stolen? i mean, he has aleady done some sh*tty things already).

Take him to court, get a court order for support, and request that he have third party supervised visitation until he gets his alcohol issues under control. If you don't get that, call the cops the first time he shows up drunk to pick up your child, or drops him off in that condition, and refuse to turn the child over to him when he's drunk.

And move on. He's just not that into you. And he's not worth having.

You need to get a lawyer. Pronto.

just tell him