JessicaSWales

I have three children and currently receive child tax, child benefit, housing benefit and income support. My new partner earns roughly 204 a week before tax. If he moved in, I am aware I will lose most of what I receive now but I need to know how much I may get if we claim as a couple. I have heard of income related ESA for 365 days and working tax but can't get a clear answer. Thanks

I have been told due to my scar (long story) that they will be inducing me at between 37-38 depending on how long i can cope with the pain. How would they do this? Would they take me into the hospital and use a pessary or would they give me a sweep? I was told by my midwife that she cant touch me before 38 weeks. I would rather know now so i can arrange childcare for my other son etc!

I hope they take me in as if i get given a sweep and im stuck at home (Neither myself or my partner drive) and an ambulance would be very dramatical!!!

I did get induced on my previous son but it was at a different hospital and under a different doctor. Any advice would be much appreciated. Jess x

Hi to all, I am officially due the 13th October with my 2nd son.

When i was approx 3 weeks old i was diagnosed with Volvulus which is a term for when the intestines twist themselves. My case was very server and they therefore had to do an emergency surgery to correct it. This has left a deep nasty purple scar. I was offered plastic surgery to correct it as a child but mother denied it (Go figure). It starts an inch from my belly button across the whole right hand stomach. It is very jagged and as i am a larger woman is rather prominent.

My first pregnancy was affected as of from 36 weeks. At the end i couldn't even get out of bed without help and a dose of strongest as can be painkillers! I was therefore induced at 39 weeks ( 3 day labour, two gels, waters artificially broke and drip in the end and he came a healthy 7.2)

This pregnancy however i have been suffering from 26-27 weeks. The pain is horrendous. I feel physically and mentally exhausted from this constant pain in my stomach. Whenever he kicks me i scream and cringe in pain. I really cannot seem how i can go on for much longer without any help. I have already been given a prescription off the A and E after several trips and constant moaning to my midwife. They tablets are codeine and Tramadol but they make me extremely drowsy so i feel like i am half asleep all the time or i give in and fall asleep. I have a nearly three year old who loves the attention so i feel as if im failing him :( I don't have the energy to do much housework and when i do im in so much pain that i cant move for hours after.

Has anyone been in the same situation as me or similar? They have 'mentioned' inducing me at 38-39 weeks but only as a last resort. I feel like giving up. I have had to go on maternity because of this reason. I am not one to complain as that is all i seem to be doing. I am so sorry for the long story. I just need some encouragement or advice?

Thank you again Jess.

Confusing situation but I need some advice.

My expected period date was 2nd jan 2011. It came a week late on the 9th jan. I missed my next period and therefore did a test and it was positive, had a scan at what I thought I was 9 weeks 3 days but they said I measured at 10 weeks 6 days. At my next scan I thought I was 20 weeks and 5 days calculating off the previous scan dates and not my own figures but they said he was measuring bigger again 21 days 6 days.

I have now had a 4d scan today at 26 weeks 6 days and they say he is measuring at 28 weeks 3 days!!

In your opinion is just going to be a big boy? Last one was 7 pound 2.....

His fetal length is measuring smaller than his head so am I further along then I think I am?

I did have a heavy period on the 9th jan( sorry tmi) and did a clear digital when I found out and that said I was 2-3 weeks pregnant which was right for my dates?

I'm so confused? Should I be concerned at all? I'm having a glucose test next week as my mother has diabetes.

Thanks in advance Jess

I am currently 12 weeks and 2 days pregnant. I have already had my scan at 10 weeks 6 days and everything looked good. But my god these cramps don't have catch me out. I am currently sat down browsing though some questions on good ol' yahoo answers and i have to move to my side to relieve some of the cramp style pains in my stomach. I am a big girl and have already had a baby so i know that its all normal to an extend but what is the point where you would say its NOT normal??? I had bleeding with my previous pregnancy so i got myself checked straight away back then but im not bleeding and so worried about a missed miscarriage without bleeding. I have read so much i think im paranoid.

I wont have a appointment until im 16 weeks pregnant which seems such a long time away!! I do have a private gender scan at the same time but until then iv got nothing to ease my worries except you lovely people.

Thank you :)

Im currently six weeks pregnant, Which im so happy about!!!

I'm having some dull achy pains in my side and lower tummy with some brown spotting. I have already spoken to my midwife and she said its nothing to worry about until i have red bleeding or severe pains, But im wondering if anyone has had some simliar symptons and stories :)

Also id love to have a birth buddy!! Someone who is due around the same time as me :) 16th October 2011!! Get in touch :D

Im a nervous mummy at the moment and would love to just feel abit more at ease. Thank you!

Before i go any further i just want to apologise for the detail.

Ovulated on the 19th of December, normal stretchy clear mucus that ive had for months (TTC) had unprotected sex on the right days before and after but then i noticed the mucus two days after i ovulated then it carried on and off for the week after.

Phoned the doctor and he said it could be that i ovulated late and not to worry unless it becomes irritating, discoloured or smelly.

Now im four days late for my period, i have done two HPT and both come back negative. Boobs pretty tender, but tha'ts normal for me around period time. But i did notice a change when im cold my nipples get stiff and hurt alot more than normal. One other sign is im moderately more exhausted then i should be. IE Falling asleep couple hours before i used to. My mood has been horrendous these past two days.

I just wanted to know if it sounded hopeful or any advice.......

I will be going to the doctors if AF doesnt come in the next couple days, but just with my works i dread asking for time off.

Thanks ahead of time. Jess

I had the coil fitted in june 09. Had the usual after effects I.E Varied bleeding, Cramps on n off for about 2 months. I then in dec 09 had some problems with server pains in my lower abdomen and went to the docs. Had a infection in my womb, Not the STI/STD type. The doc at the hospital recommended that i get the coil taken out as this could be causing the problem. It had slightly moved and therefore this could of been the reason i had the infection. I went to my local GP and they were very iffy about taking out the coil ( as it cost to much money to the NHS). I did have a course of anit-botics to sort out the infection which is gone now but the pain remains.

Do i have the right to demand it being taken out? Can they refuse to take it out? As i could be just going back onto the pill instead. Cheers Jess from South Wales, Uk.

Hey all

I have been in debt for a few years now and have finally decided to offer some kind of payment.

The problem is that I have too many, I can't pay them all £x per week at the same time.

I was wondering what the lowest amount is I can pay a debt collector that they legally have to accept?

I have heard rumours it is £1 per month but I am unsure about this. If it's true, it would be ideal because I can make these £1 gesture payments until a certain creditor is cleared then go on to the next one etc etc.

I appreciate that debt should never be ignore, and I don't want to go into too much detail.

Thanks

I am looking to buy a puppy, however I do not have a epupz premier account and so cannot see contact details of an advert under 7 days old. Could anyone with a www.epupz.co.uk premier account get the contact details for this pup?

http://www.epupz.co.uk/clas/viewdetails.asp?view=3...

I know this is a long shot but im desperately trying to find a name of a classical song. Its a really upbeat song, Mainly played on piano with some kind of string instrument used to harmonise. I have seen it in some adverts and im 90% sure its in a bank advert but it is not the one from the lloyds tsb advert. If any could offer some suggestions id appreciate it. Cheers

this is a very long story but il keep it short.

i was with someone called 'Sean' for over a year before i got caught pregnant. All way though pregnancy he said he wanted the baby and me. Came 10 days after he said he never wanted the baby and never loved me. We then (stupidly) slept togather a couple times after we broke up. We ended up basically being bf n gf again without the status.. with me also having emails off all his friends saying that he was stil in love with me. We had a big bust up and he nearly left the country, and confessed into doing all sorts like drugs, drinking, sleeping with under age people.... it just gets worse. All this time he was also suggesting to give him space and then give us a second chance, so therefore leading me on. Either way it had been on n off, all along messing with my head to where i stood with him and our son. i never got any financial help because he didnt work at the time but agreed when he did, he would start. 10 months down the line he had an affair with a woman, ended her relationship and the poo hit the fan. He has james every weekend because ive never stopped him seeing james BUT now he has this new gf they get drunk everyweekend, whilst hes in control of my son. walking him up on new years day at midnight to take him out in the cold without a blanket too, and he was very very drunk.. Proof is there due to his facebook profile pic! his gf has a little girl and shes being put into the same situation too...

Im concerned whether to let my son see his father now that sean has no sense of responasabilty now hes all loved up. My main concern is my son and i dont want anything to happen. Ive tried talking to him but alas he refuses to talk about it saying im over reacting! His name is on the birth certificate so i dunno where i stand either. Financially now hes working, and refuses to help instead to buy the stuff.. which is fine by me but i wanted to see reciepts but got the response he wanted to see MY reciepts!! Any help would be amazing thanks im stuck in the middle here :((

My wedding cake i have chosen is a three tiered ivory cake, and in between the tiers there will be fresh roses BUT how do i build it up from cake to cake. IE do i use foam or oasis inbetween to put or hold the flowers still on... I am doing the cake myself due to lack of funds but still am struggling to pull it all togather. Thanks for any input Jess.

I want to know if anyone can supply me with a simple and easy to follow beef casserole recipe. i have oxo beef concentrate to use as the stock supplement. i have a mixture of veg and beef ready to be cooked. Many thanks Jess

I have a pay as you go phone but i am changing the phone it self but keeping the sim. I have credit on this sim but when i go to use the phone it says that i have no credit?? swappin the sim back to the old phone and it states i have the credit? i use a card to get credit onto my phone , now does it go on my actual phone or sim?? thanks

I have just recieved my second hand copy of Final Fantasy Xi for online use of the xbox 360. I however when inputtin the codes have received two messages sayin that the codes were invalid and to check them. i then checked the internet for the previous buyers details etc, emailed him what had happend etc. BUT when i then went to log out i put the codes on once more to double check it all but then revieved a different messgae sayin unable to process request please check membership status. it then asked me to input a few names and passwords and is now uploading final fantasy which is guna take an hour... does this sounds right? only reason i ask is because im afraid that my codes are invalid or that ive messed it up somehow! ive been waiting for this games for a couple weeks. would it have let me pass this stage if i had invalid codes(where the previous owner had not cancelled their acc and was still using the codes in the back of the book for themselves) ??? Many thanks

Ive had my credit card from Capital one for about 2 months and have spend about £100 of its £200 limit. Ive recieved statements with low mininum payments (around about £6) which i always pay. will the payments go up or always stay below the £6 mark, if i dont spend anymore on the card? the next bill will be the 3rd. only reason i ask is because i thought i read somewhere that after 3 months something changes and i cant find the paperwork to re read it again. ive searched on ther website and found nothing usefull to help me. and having rung them and getting no where fast with being on hold for so long im resorting to this sorry to be so stupid im just panickin i have to pay more than i can afford at present. its the capital one classic visa credit card with the 34.9% apr. ONLY reason ive had to use this is because my boiler decided to break down and needed it done asap with a newborn in the house and cold winter,, so please dont jugde me and turn around and say you shdnt use them, i hate no choice, thanks jess.

well ive just had a baby who is now two weeks old, my now ex partner who broke up with me 3days ago because he doesnt feel anything for me anymore, lied about wanting this baby back last june!!! he now wants to know my son after deciding that he didnt want to ly to me anymore and fessed up the whole thing... he started to question his feelings last july when i got caught preg and didnt speak up until now about any of this. bearing in mind he DID NOT WANT this baby in the start,,, his words not mine!! i have always said that he has the right to see his son and will never stop him as long as he helps me raise him like he should.. ie responsability with share of expenses (helping with money) etc. but yet he has left me on my own, with post natal depression in which im struggling with anyhow to raise this child alone. how often is enough for what he has done?? his words are that he wants to see him as much as possible so no guide lines with him. thanks for the help.

my son is 12 days old and im taking care of him on my own, i do have a partner but between one thing and another(ie work, hobbies) im running solo at the moment.I had a good pregnancy but a three day long and painful labour.

I do all my housework when my son sleeps and still get on with things i used to do.. ie food shopping. he doesnt get mis treated in any way.

but i feel so alone, my partner has never been the affectionate type and ive always got on without it, did things by myself and its never bothered me, even went to all my antenatals app alone.

i dnt feel any connection with my son or with my partner anymore. i dont believe that he is my child and that he was part of me, i miss being pregnant and want him back in my bump so i do feel connected to him. i loved giving birth( had an epi!) and would do it all again for the experience. i thought i would of felt some kinda change when i became a parent but i dont, i dont feel like a mum, just a carer for a newborn.

my partner and i have had a problem/issue with his commitments ie his hobbies and was promised he wouldnt do any until the baby was a month old but come to a push he went out when my son was a week old and broke that promise(hes in a band and does gigs... would rather be the next kurt cabain rather then a dad/partner)

.I know nothing can change it but i feel so distant from him now, i even asked for a cuddle the other day and he said maybe i would get one(i didnt).

Nothing makes me feel happy anymore, i used to love shopping but now its like a chore( im doing the night feeds too which is so draining)

Am i losing my mind??? should i feel like this???

im going in tomorrow morning for an induction!!! its for medical reasons and they thought it was best for me and the baby, il be 39 weeks and 1 day which isnt a bad time as its only 6 days off my due date. im just wondering any advice from previous induction mummies?? what should i expect?? not sure what they are going to with methods and what not but im just wondering is there anything i should take in with me extra... i already have two bags holdal bags with one for me and one for the baby.. Just so ive fully covered and dont need to worry about having to need something and sending my partner home for it and he misses all the action( my nightmare recently) thanks...

PS ive packed a the essentials for the baby obviously but what would you recommend for the coming home outfit.. ive packed a sleepsuit and a very wolly blanket or two.. would this be ok???

thanks again ive just got last minute nerves and are trying to calm myself down lol. cheers!