my 4yr old wets bed alot?

It shouldn't matter if he is the oldest or the youngest. It happens to kids of all ages. You need to put diapers/nappies on him at night to save the bedding and pajamas from being wet and nasty. My son is almost 5 yrs old and he still wears a disposable diaper to bed at night for bed wetting. It is very common for kids his age to wet the bed. It can be several issues but more commonly it is the bladder being immature. When his bladder is full, the sensory to wake him when it needs to be emptied is not there hence he wets the bed and being a heavy sleeper does not help out either. It is not his fault and I hope you do not punish him for wetting the bed, he needs to wear a diaper to bed. Bed wetting also can be hereditary which is our case. My father wet the bed until he was 12 and I wet the bed past the age of 15. I wore disposable diapers to bed until I could keep them dry which like I said was past the age of 15. I went the same way with my son and decided to keep diapers on him at night to save the bedding and not have to wash laundry every night. Since I was a bed wetter my self I can tell you its much better waking up in a wet diaper than wet nasty bedding and wet pajamas. I think it is worse in the child's self esteem also to wake up in the wet nasty mess rather than a wet diaper. Once the child goes to sleep, he/she has no clue as to what they are wearing to bed so why not protect them and the bedding with a diaper/nappy.

My daughter is also 4 and she wets the bed still. She's perfectly fine during the day, sometimes she has a few accidents, but she's ok. One of my daughters didn't stop wetting the bed a few times until she was 8. What I do with my daughter is wake her up before I got to sleep so she can use the bathroom. She wears night time pull-ups at night in case she does have an accident.

First, there is nothing too unusual about a four-year old that wets the bed. I am not saying this to be mean, but just pointing out that there are many, many grade-school children that still do. Go to the diaper aisle of the grocery store or Wal-Mart and you'll see pull-up style diapers that are made to fit kids into their teens! In a class of one-hundred students, your son is probably about one of twenty out of one-hundred in his age group who still wet the bed.

The most important thing in that is to just not make an issue out of it. This would put more stress on him, and potentially make it worse or minimize any progress.

His body should mature enough by age six or seven to have control at night. Some children do need longer, but for now it is fine to just manage the problem without bringing it up. After age six, he should see his pediatrician for evaluation - to make sure all the plumbing, pipes, and wires are working fine.

Using a mattress protector is, of course, the advisable. The use of diapers/pull-ups is acceptable, it will help him to get a good nights rest and keep the bed clean; but he should don, doff, and dispose of them on his own. Also, he should handle striping his mattress, and you should teach him how to make the bed (with your help, of course).

This is not punishment; but it is teaching him to be responsible and take care of his own problems without belittling or chastising him.

Limiting, but not completely stopping drinks before bedtime is advisable. If he is truly thirsty, then he should have something to drink; but sips, not gulps... Waking him to go to the toilet is good, and you can also consider setting an alarm clock in his room to go off every few hours to wake him up. You can use a bedwetting alarm.

Both are a means of behavior modification, but will also take time to be effective. It may take weeks to months; but don't give up.

Anyway, hang in there. This is a normal part of childhood, he is not alone; and neither are you. Just be patient, reinforce that you know it is not his fault, and don't dwell on the topic.

Cheers!

This is not uncommon at all with four year olds, especially boys. More than likely his bladder just isn't yet strong enough to go the whole night. Keeping him from liquids late is good. You may just have to hang in there for another year or two. If you're very concerned about it, talk to his pediatrician at his next doctors visit. You should have the discussion without your child in the room because you don't want to make him feel bad about himself.

Stop worrying and use pull up pants. My Grandson cannot wake during the night, he is nearly 6. It will come in time. There are worse things to worry about. Boys are difficult to get dry at night that is why these night time pants were invented.

I'd just put him in pull-ups (call them bed time pants) and wait till he's dry. They do it when they're ready, health visitors dont worry till they're 7!

It is exhausting though - just stick with it and rest when you can. Count up total number of hours you sleep - as might make you feel better than if you just think of how long you get before you're woken! :)

A couple of hours after he goes to bed wake him up and let him use the loo, this will help him to wake himself when he needs to, at the moment they think they have to go to bed and stay there until the morning.

They used to think that problem was psychological now they know its chemical. He could be wetting the bed for a long time. Try not to give him a complex about it.

one of my sons wet the bed until he was 7.Not a lot you can do but wait till he grows out of it he will eventually.

Not a lot you can do ,, Too young to really use inducements ,, badges etc ,, some boys are in teens before they stop