10 PTS! Is it wrong for your friend to mess around with the guy you like and mess around with?

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Well I introduced my friend to this guy.  This guy and I were good friends, I liked him a little but not to the extreme..  I never really told my gf about this. I could see he liked her and was attracted to her but she seem to always turn him off, refusing to go to his parties, talkin **** about him saying he not all that.  I wasn't bothered or jealous at all because I couldnt see them hooking up and i really didn't like him like him. I just saw him more as a friend..  Anyways he invited her to the party she refused and acted all mad because he wouldnt stop begging her so he just invited me alone instead.  So i went and we messed around, not in a sexual way but pretty damn close.  I refused to have sex unless I was in a relationship.  He kept trying, and it was so hard to resist but i refused and we just messed around in every other way.  But we had a great night, sparks sparked. I felt like I was falling for him.  Anyways I told my friend about this, how excited I was and what I did with him. I was so happy things happened like they did.  I was seeing him for days talking with him, getting to know him more.  I felt like he might have wanted to finish what we started.  I resisted the temptation.  Later on in the week, he came to my gf house with me and her there, he came with his friends.  We were drunk, she wanted to go get something with him at the store. so Ok.  Next thing i know im dieing on the floor in the bathroom and she comes late.  Later on like a week later she told me that she had sex with him in the car.  I was like wtf? She lost her virginity to his guy.  Then i told her it is wrong for you to do that to your friend after she told you about him and messed around with him.  She said it is not wrong, she said he was never my man so it's not wrong to do with a friend.  She said she liked him first and kissed and messed around with him first before I did.

What really pisses me off is that she didn't say crap about this guy but negative things, and things happened between me and him. I would NEVER ALLOW MYSELF to fool around with him knowing he messed with her in the first place. THAT IS SICK.  yet she knew what I did with him all along and she ends up having sex with him, thats gross!  
So she says she doesn't deserve to be my friend because she know she is RIGHT liking him before me and messing around with him before me.
Yea well you didnt bother or even think about letting me know before.
I'm happy it happened because I met and fell in love with another person, but still is this a true friend to let this happen?



Well I just want to know, do you think she is wrong for this regardless of how she felt before I messed with him, or right just because he wasnt my man and she liked him before me without TELLING ME?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Honestly it seems a little wrong. Well way wrong. I do understand the whole point of "he wasn't your man to begin with" but that is the type of person she is. It goes along with a persons personal morales. And she obviously has some pretty loose morales. If I were you I wouldn't be friends with her. And it is her loss not yours. Let her think what she wants because one thing is for sure is that we can never make people change the way we want them to be. So it is her loss. As for the guy... obviously he was just wanting one thing. I cant stand that and yes there are women out there like that (your ex-friend)... but it always seems to be more male doing that to females. At least for me it was. I think it was wrong and I think you should just ignore her and you make the choice to not be friends with her. Unless you still want to be and you can forgive her. But if it was me I would always worry about her being around my bfs. I am happy that you have found someone. So forget them. :) And be happy. And Good Luck.

Lauren · Answer

When you get your own penis, you can do whatever you want with it. Apparently this guy you like isn't afraid to do just that. Your girlfriend was probably just jealous and competitive. It sucks, but it happens. She's not a very good friend. 

What she did isn't really wrong. It may have hurt your feelings, but you two weren't committed to any relationship. Also you need to think about the guy too. You knew he liked her before you, and you messed around with him. He only stuck to his original plan, your friend on the other hand was pretty childish.

cookiee · Answer

well, let me just tell you...
it's her loss for having messed around with this guy
cos she just lost her virginity to him, she saved you from losing it
you should be glad :D although i'm sure she's smirking that she was the one who had sex with him.
she might think that's a really great thing to do, something she can be proud of..
but in a few yrs down the road, she's going to regret it while you're going to enjoy ur marriage life.
cos she can't give the greatest gift a wife can ever giv to her husband: her virginity
while you can, cos you never messed around! (:
isn't that good? so really it's her own loss..
but just think of it this way that ur fren betrayed you, don't be angry about them having sex but be angry that you never expected a good friend would do that
but all the same, just forgive her and move on to another grp of friends.
cos she deserves pity for having lost her virginity although she doesn't see it yet but she will later on.
so just forgive her so she'll be less pitiful!
don't worry bout this okay, cos no matter wat, you'll end up as the winner ((: all the best~

Angie H · Answer

Yea i think she's wrong because she only did it because you told her about you and him.If she liked him before you then why did she keep putting him off?Evidently she didn't like like him until you told her about you and him.It shouldn't matter if he wasn't your man you told her you liked him so there for she should have never done what she done,And she never let you know that she liked him until you messed with him.I would be glad that she's not your friend now because who knows what she would have done with your new boyfriend now.Don't let her back in your life she's no good!!!!!!!!

Caramet · Answer

the girl's not a true friend if she's going to do that. well, did that.she didn't make a move and you did. she's not a great friend at all and you deserve better. it should've been understood that you liked him. she's very jealous and insecure, from what you say. best of luck on making new friends. and forget her.

mitate · Answer

that is so wrong. you tell to tell her to get off her high horse and find herself another friend cause she doesn't deserve to have a friend like you

Anonymous · Answer

She is wrong. Deep down she is a hateful b*tch and is probably jealous of you. You should rethink this friendship.

Tippyntj · Answer

He's a pig, she's a pig..why do you even care?  Kick both their asses to the curb.  Don't even allow yourself to stress over it.

BB · Answer

get rid of them both. she is a selfish lil girl. she will only hurt you in the long run.

? · Answer

shes wrong, its in the unwritten code of friendship, its called LOYALTY!!

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