My soon to be ex-husband uses his daily calls with our son to get to me?

Tell your attorney. What he is doing is so wrong. Ask the judge if the calls can be recorded. Your husband is damaging your son by bad-mouthing you. He should be held accountable. As soon as you hear him start in, hang up. Although the court papers say he has the right to communicate with his son, they sure as hell don't say he has the right to trash you to your son. What a jerk.

Have someone set up a recorder on the phone. Of course you will have to let him know the phone calls are being taped, but just explain that you are only doing this to protect yourself from his badgering and to make sure that he is not able to talk badly about you so your son can hear it. Or you can just not talk to him. When you answer the phone and it is him, just put your son on the phone right away, and when the conversation is finished, simply say, good bye. If he starts in on you just tell him, This phone conversation is over. Of course, there will be times that you two need to discuss something going on with the child, like doctor's appointments, visitation, etc, but you do not have to allow yourself to be badgered every day.

I personally think that because of what you say is an attempt to criticize, manipulate, insult and demean you, that recording the phone conversations is the way to go and it is legal, you just have to let the other party on the line know the conversation is being taped.

Well, Mary, dear, since he feels such an uncontrolable desire to do this, you may want to just have a neighbor or a friend hold the phone for the baby when your soon to be ex calls. Or, after he is done chattling with your son, just lay the phone down so he can have his tirade. Check the phone later. Hang it up.

This way he gets his moment, and you don't, lol.

If it is really that bad then you need to document the calls and bring up the harassment in court. Honestly, there is always a degree of bashing from one sidfe or the other in these divorce cases, unfortunately, but the extent that it is happening would be the relevant point.

If he is just being a jerk then cut him off and don't let him get under your skin. If you ignore it long enough he will feel stupid and move on...

I have no idea what you're even saying..... he shouts insults about you to a baby? Am I getting this right? Is this really a question you need to ask?

Whomever he's saying this to, obviously start taping these conversations. You're not his therapist. Its not your responsibility to calm his anger outbursts. You're well within your rights to end all phone calls until he can control himself. Its verbal abuse and its not something you have to put up with.

Tape the conversation between your son & the jerk. Use it as proof that he's not playing by the rules.