Long Distance Relationship: How long is too long?

if you love him enough, you'll be willing to wait...and are you engaged to him? if so, maybe you should move closer to him. you're old enough. i'm only 18, and my parents wouldn't allow me to. but you on the other hand have the complete ability to do whatever you want. If i could, i would move closer to my fiance because i love him so very much....but if you feel that you can't handle it, just leave him...

You don't say how far apart you are, and it does matter in responding well...IF it is a case where you are 6 hours apart, this usually can be resolved with seeing one another once a month you fly there - or alternate and he flies to you. If it is across several states or more, then I believe anything longer than 6 months is probably too long.

While the old adage remains, "absence makes the heart grow fonder" that is only, to a degree - and only, works for a little while.

Like all else in this life, ALL relationships should be nurtured and tended to, otherwise? They merely wilt and die.

Best of luck dear...

Grace

It entirely depends on you guys and how strong your love is. My boyfriend left for only 6 months and I though I could do it but the connection we had really suffered during that time. We ended up breaking up another 6 months after he got back, mainly because the emotional distance between us had grown so much. But I see now that it probably wouldn't have worked out anyway.

My parents have the greatest relationship I've ever seen and they did long distance for 3 years before my mom quit her job and moved so they could get married. So if you really love him, and he really loves you, and you trust each other, wait however long it takes. It'll be worth it.

We spent a year and a half long distance while I looked for a better job to move for. I had a daughter and refused to uproot myself and her for a minimum pay job. It had to a sure thing and a solid career. After a year of job hunting, I landed this gig at a major university where I get to play in Y/A in my downtime lol. I am glad I held out and so is my now husband.

who ever has the better job should stay if you love him don't you want to be with him .. YES you won't be able to have that new tv might not even be able to have cable tv, might have to live on some tuna helper for a while, or boxed cheese, you might have to ride a bus or bike or walk to the store having one car to make bills work are hard. Plus who ever has the less costly job who knows maybe they can gain a great insite at the new place for more money

When my husband and I first got together, he was stationed in Germany and I was in CA. We did the long distance thing for a year. Do it till you feel you can't anymore. If you aren't dependent on having a man around, it isn't that bad!

Well, I'm giving up a really well paying job to move near him. He has a young son that he'd like to raise in the small town they live in, and I understand that.

So, what about you moving there?

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it is very hard to maintain long distance relationships and some wont stand

so work it out and stay together

if you make late on working on this then your boy friend may leave you

I think it depends on how long you have been together and if you both love eachother enough to move. If you love him and he loves you, Its worth waiting for. Just remember that you cant wait forever.

every time I submit a question, even if its the easiest one, nobody can offer me a good informed answer . What happened to people who really make the effort to write an answer..