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Large Penis PROBLEMS?
Okay I am without word of a lie, about 8 1/4 inches long, and I'm not sure on the girth but a little more than average.
I've had a few sexual partners, and lately since word got out about my "size" I've had no shortage of dates ( damn shallow women)
-BUT-
With most of them, all but one, they want to stop early on because of pain.
I do everything I'm supposed to, I dont go all the way in. Substantial foreplay, lube, the best positions. And I still have the girls telling me it hurts like hell after a short time.
Besides these short relationships, my one g/f of over a year took almost 6 months before we could have half way normal sex.
Anything I can do to make it easier on the women? and in turn, help out my sex life?
I'm white BTW and 20 yrs old
LOL and your a top contributor?
do some research. Average male size is around 6" and child birth hurts like hell, Neither of those points are even somewhat valid.
Also, I DID state, substantial foreplay meaning at LEAST half an hour of touchy touchy, usually much more.
AND I did mention that I have tried using lots of lube.
Good job
6 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Ok there is a lot to cover but i will just give you a brief answer:
a lot of women are not use to above average penises. so patients is a virtual. after a few times they will get use to receiving your size. it's key for the woman to relax. once pain starts the body starts reacting making it seem 3x's bigger. once she say's stop respect her. it does get frustrating but it is her body. Please keep this in mind as well - because of your size and her not use to it you are at a higher risk of catching and STI - her vaginal wall is very thin and can tear easy, your penis skin is thin and your head is a membrane so she can transfer to you. There is a lot more i can talk to you about, shoot me an email and i will be more than happy to chat with you
Source(s): HIV/STI educator & counselor - LolLv 61 decade ago
Thats big... but not scary. Girth is more of a factor than length. maybe the women you are with are not giving themselves enough time to get ready. A vagina can accommodate a babies head after all. It all sounds strange. I was once with a man, who had a good inch on you. It wasn't scary at all. It was no different to the man I am with now. I don't know what the answer is. Just patience, lots of lube. there shouldn't be any pain though.
Edit: childbirth hurts because when the uterus contracts, it is starved of oxygen. The pain caused when a baby crowns, is caused by the stretching of the vaginal vestibule (opening) the vagina itself has no nerve endings, past two or so inches in.
Length of a penis has no bearing on the amount a pain a woman would experience. If your girth is 'average' size, then this is purely a preperation issue.
Source(s): RN/woman/35 - Happy ScallyLv 41 decade ago
You are not yet experienced enough to know what "half way normal sex" is.
It comes (sorry) in hundreds of varieties, and simultaneous orgasm from vaginal penetration is mostly from Hollywood and airport novels, though it adds to the fun if it happens now and again when you are trying for a baby.
So forget substantial foreplay, and do hand jobs, oral, whatever, for its own sake, not just to get her warmed up. Dr. Kate says "Perhaps instead of thinking of intercourse as the main course, you should be thinking of it as the dessert at the end of an already satisfying meal."
After ten minutes of thrusting lube can dry out, or the vaginal muscles may become tired or crampy. I don't have your size problem, so I can only guess at suggestions to improve your fun during penetration.
I suggest you experiment with keeping completely motionless. It is amazingly hot if she stays still too, perhaps just squeezing you with her vaginal muscles, but she could also try rotating or even thrusting her hips. Meanwhile you could caress her clitoris, and concentrate her attention there.
The Kama Sutra says you should choose a woman with medium or larger vagina, but I am not sure I believe it.
Source(s): http://www.emandlo.com/2010/01/dear-dr-kate-is-my-... http://www.emandlo.com/2009/06/advice-my-new-boyfr... http://www.sacred-texts.com/sex/kama/kama201.htm - Anonymous1 decade ago
My answer to you is this: Go with very TALL women who have a large build. Stay away from small petite women unless you want to inflict pain. I'd say 5'9 minimum all the way up to about 6'1 or 6'2".
Use astroglide or k-y jelly for her vagina once she starts to feel any pain. Go with very tall athletic women. That's my advice to you.
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
You are so lucky to have a big one and take it as a gift and also lots of foreplay would help and also lube...
- Anonymous1 decade ago
your size is not massive at all so goodness knows why the girls are having trouble.
the vagina is designed to allow a baby's head through and i am sure your penis is not that wide!
again, it must be your technique. the girl must be ready to receive you. that means lots of foreplay to make her moist and lots of lube.
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