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On the experiences of others...?

Can people who aren't adopted know what it feels like to be adopted?

Can people who ARE adopted know what it feels like NOT to be adopted? (Assuming here they were adopted in infancy.)

Can people who have never been pregnant know what pregnancy feels like?

Can people who have never been infertile know what infertility feels like?

Can people who have never relinquished a child know what relinquishment feels like?

Can people who have never had biological children know what having a biological child feel like?

Can people who have never adopted a child know what adopting feels like?

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If your answer wasn't the same to all of these questions, why do you feel they are different?

Thanks!

Update:

Just so everyone knows, I give thumbs-up to anyone who provides a relevant answer to my questions, whether or not I actually AGREE with that answer. :-)

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  • .
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Can people who aren't adopted know what it feels like to be adopted?

    No. They might be able to relate. As in they lost someone important to them, as did we. Although some adoptees may not feel that way. I suffer from my loss & other things, while other adoptees are so called 'perfectly well rounded'.

    Can people who ARE adopted know what it feels like NOT to be adopted? (Assuming here they were adopted in infancy.).

    No. Its all you know if you were adopted as an infant. Even when you are in reunion you still know you did not grow up with these people. You can vary from your biological family (nature vs. nuture) there is nothing you can do to change that.

    Can people who have never been pregnant know what pregnancy feels like?

    No. This one you can't even relate anything too.

    Can people who have never been infertile know what infertility feels like?

    No. They may can relate to it by having a misscarriage or a stillborn infant, but they will never know what it means to be completely infertile. I had a miscarriage and I can only imagine the pain of having multiple then being told your'll never have your own biological children.

    Can people who have never relinquished a child know what relinquishment feels like?

    No. I can't imagine.The fear that comes after having your child. Are they breathing at night, will someone hurt them, and so on. I cry just thinking about something happening to him. I couldn't bear to think how I would be if I really LOST my son.

    Can people who have never had biological children know what having a biological child feel like?

    No. Adoptive children are completely different than having your own biologically.

    Can people who have never adopted a child know what adopting feels like?

    No.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think we can all empathize, but no we can't know what anything truly feels like if we have not experienced it ourselves.

    That said, I do put more weight on issues where exploitation occurs. For example as a woman who has suffered infertility, I don't use that status in my life to conduct unethical behaviour.

    I will never know what it is like to be adopted, but I have a severely vested interest as an adoptive mother to find out the most I can to assist my children.

    I will never know what having a biological child feels like, but I chanel all my love into my children who are adopted. Is it the same? I will never know nor will I be concerned.

    Love the question, empathy is important, but can't use own personal feelings to trample on the human rights of others.

    Thanks!

    Source(s): Adoptive mom from foster care
  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    On the experiences of others...?

    Can people who aren't adopted know what it feels like to be adopted? No because they're not adopted

    Can people who ARE adopted know what it feels like NOT to be adopted? (Assuming here they were adopted in infancy.) - No because they don't know any difference

    Can people who have never been pregnant know what pregnancy feels like? No because they haven't experienced pregnancy which I personally have

    Can people who have never been infertile know what infertility feels like? No and the closest I have felt to that is that my husband is infertile which is why we haven't had children together and it is doubly heartbreaking as I haven't raised my only child

    Can people who have never relinquished a child know what relinquishment feels like? No they are clueless then some have the nerve to serve to say that we deserve to suffer pain, we blame others for what we've been through, don't take any responsibility and it's our own fault but I wouldn't want anybody to suffer the pain I'm still suffering 28 years on and post reunion

    Can people who have never had biological children know what having a biological child feel like? No

    Can people who have never adopted a child know what adopting feels like? No

  • 1 decade ago

    Can people who ARE adopted know what it feels like NOT to be adopted? (Assuming here they were adopted in infancy.) From my own experience, I never FELT adopted, I always knew I was but it wasn't a big part of my life. I guess for someone who felt adopted very strongly, then no.

    Can people who have never been pregnant know what pregnancy feels like? This depends slightly, my best friend has PCOS and had Endometreosis(sp?) and suffered terribly with hormonal imbalances, menstrual cramps and migraines and PMS. She also underwent IVF to have her daughter and she compared her disorders and IVF treatment very much to pregnancy and child birth. Obviously the emotional aspect would have been completely different, but she had a very close idea of the physical aspects of pregnancy. Otherwise I would say no.

    Can people who have never been infertile know what infertility feels like? No, I don't really think they can, I can empathise but I don't know.

    Can people who have never relinquished a child know what relinquishment feels like? No, I seriously doubt they can. I guess the closest to it would be a parent whose child has passed on.

    Can people who have never had biological children know what having a biological child feel like? No, I doubt it.

    Can people who have never adopted a child know what adopting feels like? No, I doubt it.

    Some of the answers were slightly different based on how much I feel people I know could empathise with certain points.

    Source(s): Adult adoptee.
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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    You can add can people who have not had an abortion really know what it is like to have an abortion?

    I think you can be empathetic without actually walking a mile in someone's shoes, but I don't think you can judge someone fairly without knowing a little about where they are coming from. I also don't think you can really know how someone feels about anything unless you have had the exact same experiences throughout life as that person.

    Where one person may choose an abortion, another person may choose to parent or place a child for adoption. While one person may have massive regrets over her choices, the next person may not.

  • 1 decade ago

    1. Yes- Children who were put into the Foster Care system but never adopted have some of the same issues an adopted child does. Genetic bewilderment, a feeling of abandonment, etc.

    2-7. No.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    No to all of them.

    What's more, it's also no to whether someone who has experienced one of these things can know what the experience was like for someone else. They can only know what it was like for them.

    Actually, I'd have to say a qualified yes to "never been infertile". I've never actually been infertile. But it did take me long enough to conceive that I was afraid I might be. So yes, I know what it feels like to be afraid that I'll never have a child.

  • Sunny
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Can people who aren't adopted know what it feels like to be adopted?

    No.

    Can people who ARE adopted know what it feels like NOT to be adopted? (Assuming here they were adopted in infancy.)

    No.

    Can people who have never been pregnant know what pregnancy feels like?

    No.

    Can people who have never been infertile know what infertility feels like?

    Sometimes, because infertility can be a temporary condition.

    Can people who have never relinquished a child know what relinquishment feels like?

    Probably not. I think a mother who had a child die (a child, not a miscarriage) might be close, but then they get to openly grieve, and are not shamed. However, a relinquishing mother has the hope of possibly seeing her child as an adult.

    Can people who have never had biological children know what having a biological child feel like?

    No.

    Can people who have never adopted a child know what adopting feels like?

    No.

    Source(s): Over 40 years of adoption experience
  • 1 decade ago

    No to all. Even 2 people who have a shared experience may not feel the same.

    I think it's very possible for anyone to empathize though.

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