Terrible two's at 17months?

My son has started with tantrums too. He is 18months and has been having them since he was 15months pretty much. They are only a few minutes long though and he is quiet easy to distract most of the time. I have noticed that they seem worse right before he learns a new skill or word, which makes sense as they are linked to frustration rather than bad behaviour. I tend to distract an keep him from hurting himself if he's thrashing about, and I never punish him. We were all there having tantrums once! I always ask him what's bothering him, even if he can't reply because he understands lots of words and can detect tones in language, so does understand (your son would too). other than that there is nothing you can do but ride it out. It will get better I'm sure.

typical behavior for this age! They can communicate, but they dont really know how yet. I dont necessarily "ignore" my son when he throws a tantrum, but I don't give in. I mean I won't give him the pen after taking it out of his hands because he wants it. It's a dangerous sharp object! Or if he wants to watch a movie when we need to leave the house, he'll have yo get over it. I try to replace what he wants. it doesnt always work, but sometimes it does. He can't have that pen, but he can have that crayon and coloring book! he can't watch a movie but he can play outside a little bit while I get the car ready to leave the house. Sometimes they need a time out. Time outs arent a bad thing. Leaving the situation so they can calm down is a time out. I'm sure we give ourselves time outs sometimes!

You need to punish him and let him know that it is not okay for him to act this way. Tell him that if he acts this way, he will be put in time out, and time wont start until he is quiet. That is a way to punish him without physically hurting him. Over time, after he sees that you are not giving in to him he will start to learn manners and how to act.

i say that he probably needs more attention and if thats npt working then he does it on purpose to get you mad and you should give him time outs to see if hell listen?