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Hi,
for various reasons I have not dated in a couple of years and so I am confused about current etiquette.  I am wondering if it is normal for a guy to make comments after one 1 or 2 dates showing that he is sexually attracted to you.

I don't know him well, we really just started dating and to be fair he certainly isn't making explicit comments, stuff more along the lines of showing him the correct way to make a bubble bath.  

Is this just normal for guys to do this? Something in the nature of testing the waters to see if I am willing to just jump into bed with him? Or does it show a clear lack of respect for me a person and I should move on?

Thanks for your help and really anyone can answer, I am just confused as to whether this is appropriate

Bill256 · Answer

First off, if a guy tells you immediately on the first date that he wants to have sex with you, then that's probably not cool.  If, after a couple of dates, he just tells you that you're sexy, then that's a good sign...  Or maybe, after a few dates, if you've had some kisses and so forth, and he tells you that he would like to have sex with you, but he doesn't pressure you, then that's okay too.
As far as bubble baths are concerned, this sounds nice to me...  It sounds sensual, romantic, etc.  If he was saying that he wanted to take you out in the alley behind the bar and...  Well then, that wouldn't be as good...
Obviously you know the guy better than we do, so you should just judge him by his actions and what he says.  Don't let him pressure you into anything you don't want to do.  Tell him that you do (or do not) plan to have sex with him at some point.  That will help ease the pressure, and it will give him something to look forward to...
If you do not want to take the relationship to the next intimate level, well you should probably let him know that too...
To me, based on what you're saying, it sounds like he's just talking about it, seeing if you're interested in him in a physical way.  The mention of bubble baths sounds nice and romantic and sensual like I said, so I would think that these are good signs.
Good luck with the guy and have fun!

Albert · Answer

sounds like he is trying to see where he stands as far as getting you in to his bed and you are right he is testing the water he thinks if he gets you to show him how to make a bubble bath which is by the way a very interment time for a young lady to have a long bubble bath and a hot cup of tea with a good book so if he can get you to make the bath he can get you in to the bath and become a lot closer to you if you know what I mean

Anonymous · Answer

It's called flirting honey.

Here's a cool joke for you:

Q. What's the speed limit of sex?

A. 68 mph, because once you hit 69 you have to turn around.

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