One month to go until the divorce goes through. My soon to be ex is already seeing someone and decided?

It will take a while sweetie. I would say at least a year or more. It's a very devastating thing that happened to you. My x cheated on me when I was pregnant too. I wouldn't of known, but he gave me a venereal disease, that's the only way I found out. He had only been the second person I slept with in my life! I was devastated as well. I even tried to work it out because I was pregnant, but it eventually fell apart. Let your self hurt, your feelings are valid. Go through this pain and each day, you'll get a little better. Try to exercise, it helps a lot. Even if it's a walk. Try not to get in the dumps for days, like not eating, or going outside, it will only get you in a deeper funk. And remember, the judge will see right through his manipulating ways (hopefully). It's hard when you know how awful you were treated, then you go to court and he makes himself look good and the judge believes him. It's an awful feeling. But, remember... you are the lucky one in this, you really are. If he treated you bad, he is going to treat the next woman bad. So, consider yourself lucky. You will find a nice man one day and you'll know not to ever get involved with a poor excuse of a man like your x. Hang in there, stay strong for you child and just remember, this too will pass, I promise.

Hi Mary, Don't this kind of stuff just make your gums itch? I don't know if you ever "GET OVER IT" You learn from it, live through it but eventually you learn to work through it. He shattered your dreams and belief system about love and life. Well, the lesson you learned was that everybody does not share or believe as you do. I know he lied and deceived you into believing that he believed as you did about life, love and marriage. You can't change his lying. You can't change his deceitfulness. What you can change is how you are going to react to him from this point on. You are not only doing it for you but also for your child. Doing so will teach you to be a better parent and person overall. Finally, if you really want to know how to "GET OVER" this by starting each day by saying "I take responsibility for my decisions and my life." This means you take responsibility for allowing this man in your life and influencing you the way he did. (I know he deceived you.) Still, take responsibility for your decisions and for you and your child's happiness. What you are going through is just life happening to you. Trust me. Find the lesson and move on. You are not going to believe this now but, one day you will thank him for the horrible experience he has brought you. The experience is going to make you an even better person. Trust me again. I just hope you write to us here at YA when it happens. Your going to be saying "Well nail me to a wall and call me stuck up!" (Your hurt is too new for you to see it.) I wish you good luck and Godspeed to ya.....

You are not the only one involved in something like this. Be patient and take adversity as a life lesson.

i'm still recovering.

its a long, depressing processing.

i wish you happiness, you can make it don't let this a$$hole bring you down, your better than that and i don't even know you but i know you can make it:)