Interracial relationships are contriversial, so what do you do if you are a biracial person?

First off, I want to say that I truly sympathize with your situation.

My mother married a black man when I was just an infant. I grew up knowing him as my Daddy and did not see the difference between black and white. (he had to tell me when I was eight that he wasn't my real father...I was devastated!)

Anyhoo, my mother and him birthed a beautiful millato girl...my wonderful sister.

I have noticed, especially as we get older, that mixed and biracial individuals do face a unique set of challenges. I have been with my sister through racism and prejudice and it just breaks my heart that world is not more accepting of biracial families (or ALL races for that matter).

What I find particularly unnerving....is that we experience this prejudice in our own family.

My grandmother on my mother's side never really accepted that my mom married a black man and birthed a mixed baby. My grandmother has never accepted my sister....even going so far as to not invite er for family gatherings and leaving her out at christmas time. (no card or gifts...nothing).

This really upsets me...and my sister. We are supposed to be family...if we cannot unite within a family...how can we expect the world to unite also?

Its my opinion, that the only people who are still so closed minded and judgemental are ones that are either uneducated or old fashioned. I simply cannot understand why anyone of this generation would be unaccepting due to race. It seems to me that the problems you have expercienced (similar to my sister) have all been due to the families of the women you are dating.

Again, this is an old fashioned and ignorant concept posioning yet another generation. I will tell you...as I have told my sister...If someone's family cannot accept, love and embrace you for who you are, than they are not worthy of your time or emotion. Don't let these people get to you. They are sad, ignorant and stuck with old age concepts in a new age world. If the person you are with cannot love you enough to disregard the obviously racist and prejudice comments from their family, than they don't deserve to be with you.

Anyone you are with should love you no matter what, and defend you from harm....even if the harm comes from their own family.

This has been a hard lesson for me to learn....especially because so much of this hate and intolerance comes from my grandmother in my very own family.

It is a battle and a challenege...and I'm just thankful that at least I am alive in a time where change and racial tolerance is possible.

Don't let your biracial stauts become an issue....you have the power to remove people from your life who are unaccepting or intolerant of this...I have removed my grandmother (and it hurt me becuase I loved her so much...but I cannot love someone who can hate her own blood....black, white or purple...its just not right.)

You will meet a woman who embraces you....her family will embrace you...and she will be proud to be with you, and no matter what the circumstance...she will always defend you.

You deserve to be treated well and accpeted, your skin color should (and will oneday) have nothing to do with it.

Till then, try and excercise patience and understanding with the ignorant. If we hate them for thier intolerance than we will only spread more hate. I try to educate and foster a community of acceptance whenever I can....if I meet people who do not agree with this acceptance...I kindly look away and focus my energy on more positive things...like my beautiful sister, my wonderful Dad...and all the great lessons that being part of a biracial family has taught me.

Stay proud and confident....there are so many people out there who will love you no matter what...and as for the others...well...their own ignorance and intolerance will be punishment enough. As this world moves forward with new values and concepts...they will be left behind with outdated opinions and ideals....

Some care a lot while others don't mind it too much. There is a couple in this organization one of my parents' is in...It's a Nigerian Man and an American White Female, they have biracial children...people don't give them any flack! As far as I know, the Africans I know don't hate biracial children of any race. But I find that some Africans do look down upon what some call "Halfrican" having an African Parent and then a non-African parent. :( Although they might not hate you, they'll remind you that you're not totally African. Of course, not all Africans are like this. I can only speak of a VERY VERY small percentage of Nigerians that I know of. Some of my fellow Africans consider me African even though I'm clearly born and raised American...

You just keep striving for what you want and know is right.

I am Brazilian, but I look mixed (as 99% of people peg me as black and white because I am tan skin with really curly African American hair). For some reason, my serious relationships have been with white men. I have personally never had a problem with their families based on my race. If it ever was an issue I would hope my significant other would either already know they would have problem and steer clear of me for future heart ache or stand up for what the believe in.

I think if the person loves you for you than race wouldn't even be an issue. I mean, its no secret that your not this or that and they chose to be with you anyway. I believe "family pressure" is BS for an underlying issue.

Good luck!

There are a lot of people in this country and other countries that prefer for their children to marry within their race/culture/nationality/religious identity - and you are a textbook example of why they feel this way.

That said, there are families who are not hung up on keeping their genes pure. You just haven't met one yet. I would say that you should make this part of your criteria when choosing a mate. I am sure that there are many girls out there who are both black and white, for starters. Perhaps their families would be a little more accepting of you. Good luck.

It's obviously racial profiling..of course you stated that you have a Ph D. and I'm not wondering whether or not you were given affirmative action guidelines to get all those degrees, because you did. That's racial profiling too. Think about Obama being a "black president"..every time someone disagrees with him, they are racist...let's not think about all the white apologists and suck ups who voted him in because he was "black"..let's focus on ANY mistake he makes he cannot be criticized because he let's the "You hate me because I'm black" thing get in the way.

How many black people voted for Obama because he was half white? I never hear him called the "White president" have you? Don't bytch to us about your racial issues when I see society BENDING OVER for blacks all the time. You don't complain about "profiling" when it helps you, so don't blame it on profiling when YOU FAIL.

Whity be holdin' me back, sounds a lot like Obama blaming Bush for the economy when Obama as a senator voted for all the spending bills Bush signed. Hypocrisy doesn't discriminate

You are a good guy and if the fact that these girls are takign you for granted just goes to show you that they weren't worth your time in the first palce. You shouldn't eb ashamed of your race, in fact you are the end product of two great races and should be appreciated for what you are instead of your race. Racial inequality is sadly still predominant but i feel that you will find someone out there soon who will really appreciate you for who you are. Don't give up, and good luck =)

Dude, you would think someone with a PhD might be smart enough not to blame his problems on race. First marriage, you got married too young. Girlfriend was just looking for an easy way to dump you as she didn't see a future.

Stop blaming the color of your skin, and look deeper inside. Then jump back up, get out there, and realize there are a lot of fish in the sea, of all colors, shapes and sizes!

I have a different ethnic background than you but am also bi-racial and had to deal with racist bigoted in laws. The solution for us was that my husband cut them out of our lives until they accepted it and treated me respectfully. I won't say it was easy, he didn't speak to his family for 7 years. But, if you find the right girl, she will make you and your relationship a priority. Good luck.

Edit: Interracial relationships really aren't that controversial anymore.

if by not black or white you mean you are mix race just say so as for what you should do well there are loads of women out there and the one that is right for you is out there she may be black white or anything in between it don't matter when its right its right and you will know when you find her

The second time around it was your [lack of] money and affluence not your race.

You were her boy-toy, sorry.