Should you bring a gift to the wedding if you gave a gift at the wedding shower?

usually you give money at the wedding. at least enough to cover your own (and your date's if you're bringing one) plate. the amount depends on how close you are to the couple getting married!

it's not a requirement - no gifts are a requirement - but it is the generally accepted way of doing things

if you can afford it of course

most people get a gift off the registry for the shower & cash/check for the reception...even if it's just a small amount it's a nice gesture - like a thanks for inviting me :)

technically the wedding gift should cover the plate - this has fallen by the wayside a bit - especially if you can't afford it

for me that would be $100 a person & that would be crazy to expect! i've never heard of a wedding for less than $40/head...most people i know give $50-$100 per couple

Yes, two different occasions, two different gifts.

Some etiquette books say that you should never bring a gift to the wedding because the bride and groom often are off to a hotel or their honeymoon and cannot tend to their gifts at that time. Yes, there are relatives who can help if the reception is local. But, for those receptions not close to the bride and groom's home or their families, the gifts become problematic. So, it is good to send the gift to the bride before or after the wedding.

I would opt for a nice card, and a gift card or certificate they can use as a couple. is there a store they are using to furnish their home? or maybe even some place like Target or Publix, since they will need to fill their pantry now that they are moving in together. It is nice to think that your money will be replacing whatever they spent on your dinner, although that might get a little tricky since you might not know what they are serving until you actually get to the reception. in general i'd say at least 15-20$ a plate, if not more. maybe ask a mutual friend who is in on the planning and would know who could tell you?

Yes - both are separate gift-giving occassions.

nope,

I think your precense is more important than gifts.

I would not ask people to but if they want have a table just in case

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