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Question about tipping etiquette?

Who all should be getting a tip on the day of the wedding???

I don't have a DJ, a friend of mine is doing the music for me and we bought him a gift already.

My location is a flat rate for servers and the bartenders and everything and the tip for them is a combined 18% tip for all the people for my location.

We don't have a limo or carriage driver or anything like that.

MY wedding planner is a friend of the family and we also got her a gift.

My florist isn't delivering, we are picking up the flowers ourselves and storing them for a day and doing our own centerpieces because they are closed on the day of my wedding.

My cake delivery is also coming the day before because it too, is closed on the day of my wedding. We are having to stack and finish decorating the cake ourselves.

My officiant is my uncle, and we are have got him a gift instead of money since it is a family member.

Do I need to tip my photographer?

Have I followed through with appropriate etiquette and should I tip my photographer and did I leave out anyone important?

Thanks!

Update:

I am getting married on a Sunday in a small town and it is also Farther's Day. This is why everything is closed!

I won't be there to accept the delivery of the cake, it is being delivered to my location and the wedding coordinator there. I am already paying a fee for the delivery because delivery is extra. Do I still need to tip the cake delivery person? He is charging me 50 dollars for the delivery alone, and it would have been an extra 30 to set the cake up.

I am not having my hair and make up done professionally.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    No you shouldn't tip the photographer. Just pay him when the time comes. You also went the right route on everything else. You did great. Congrats and I wish you the best of luck and all of the happiness in the world.

    Source(s): Married 1/11/10
  • 1 decade ago

    Is gratuity included in the photo package? Ask to see a breakdown of your bill and exactly what you're being charged for line-by-line. If you see the gratuity included, then do not tip. Also, who is going to photographer your wedding? If it's the owner of the company, then you don't need to tip him. If the tip is not included and the photographer is not the owner, then it would be nice give him a tip.

    If you're confused, then call your photographer and ask about their gratuity policy. In some cases, photographers are told NOT to expect tips, because part of your charge/bill goes to paying the staff (and usually paying them quite well). So, a photo company may have an internal policy that says staff can not accept tips.

  • 1 decade ago

    You tip hair and makeup people if you go to them. If they come to you, they are already charging you a premium and you don't tip them. You should tip the cake deliver person, even if they are not setting up the cake, like $10 per person. You don't tip the photographer. Tip coat attendants, bathroom attendants,an additional amount to any server who goes above and beyond the call of duty.

    Hope this helps. And make sure the tip given to the servers is based on a percentage of the food and beverage only and not the venue.

    Source(s): Wedding planner 8 years
  • 5 years ago

    While you tip for a service, you usually do so because someone has done a service. Hence yes, there should be tipping on carryout meals but a much much smaller tip. I usually round it off to the nearest dollar. Or give a dollar.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    With something so large, I'm sure if anyone expected gratuity, they would include it in their pricing.

    I would NOT go around laying out tips... especially a photographer! They charge according to their needs and your wedding size, etc.

  • 1 decade ago

    I don't think we tipped anyone (except our bus driver that took us all back to the hotel at the end of the night). No, I would not tip the photographer (they charge enough as it is!).

    Sounds like you have it covered.

  • 1 decade ago

    What day are you getting married that everything is closed??? lol

    Anyway, I think everything sounds good. Tipping the photographer would be recommended, though don't over-tip (really depends on how much you're paying him for the job in the first place.)

    Good luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    No, you don't tip your photographer.

    And when are you getting married?

    Why is every place closed?

    Anyway, best of luck to you on your wedding day!

    Source(s): Bride to be, May 21, 2010
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    don't tip the photographer til after he shows u the pics

    Source(s): real life
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