My daughter's daycare provider just lets her cry?

There is a difference between teaching "Independence" and neglecting a child's needs. I don't think it is EVER appropriate to leave a child to cry for half an hour. Your child is telling you in her own way that this is the wrong program for her. If I were you I would find another provider.

The daycare provider is amazingly incorrect. A seven month old is purely too youthful for outing. you may't punish a infant who's purely too youthful to understand why she is being punished or perhaps that she is being punished interior the 1st place. I additionally think of that slightly one at that age is purely too youthful to understand the belief of being spoiled. And at seven months slightly one is purely too youthful to be left on my own for any reason and may be continuously supervised, even whilst she is taking part in quietly by ability of herself. somebody ought to nevertheless be preserving a watch on her. i think of that possibly your provider the two is purely too overwhelmed and would not have sufficient help, or possibly she lacks the endurance to handle an infant. the two way it extremely is risky to your infant. If she lacks endurance, then what's to end her from bodily harming her whilst she is annoyed by ability of spanking or shaking her? If she would not have the sufficient help, then what is going to take place whilst she is the right age to get into issues? What if she have been to stick a fork right into a easy socket and no person replaced into watching her or if she got here upon a button that fell of a shirt or a coin on the floor and placed it in her mouth? detect a clean provider as we talk. This one isn't assembly your daughter's desires, it extremely is risky and putting a infant so youthful in outing is purely cruel and unforgivable.

There is usually a diaper policy in place in the 3 year old room. As in they no longer change diapers. If that is the case with your provider then it seems reasonable that your DD is old enough to put her own PullUp on.

This isn't just about diapers though, is it? She doesn't want to play and eat with the other kids and comply with the schedule. Why is that? Is it a discipline issue? Is it a bad match with the care center? Is some need not being met? IDK... only you can answer that. I suggest an unannounced drop-in several times a week so you can see what is going on.

We show my daughter how to do things several times, step by step. Then we walk her through it, step by step. Then we stay near by while she does it alone, step by step. Then if she's being ridiculous and refuses to do something she's capable of doing, we let her pitch her fit until she decides to stop being ridiculous. She's 3 1/2 and I let her cry for long because she suddenly "forgot" how to put on pants that she missed her morning outing and had to go down for her nap. She wasn't traumatized, but when she got up for her nap she miraculously remembered how to put her pants on.

I think a 3 1/2 year old is more than capable of changing a pull up, but "teaching" independence means you TEACH. Leaving a child to cry until she figures it out is not teaching. I would speak with the DCP to find out what if anything she's done to show your daughter in the past and help her. If she's just throwing her in the deep end and that's her philosophy, I'd find a new DCP.

This is a tough call and only you can really know what the right thing to do is -- go with your mother's intuition. In some cases, I can see leaving a toddler alone to cry or tantrum (I do this with my 18-month-old -- when he tantrums over something silly, I just say "When you are finished crying, you may come over here and do this puzzle with me" or whatever, and then leave him alone, because I want to teach him that tantrums are not effective.) However, in other cases, it would be incredibly insensitive to leave a toddler alone to cry, particularly if she is feeling upset or inadequate because she had an accident. Only you can know whether the daycare provider's behavoir is appropriate or not. I would say that if your daughter is showing resistance to going to day care and is having more frequent and more serious accidents, she is telling you that this daycare arrangement is not OK for her. But only you can make this call! Good luck!

Yes, I would also be encouraging independence but it is obvious to me that this child feels SHAMED that she has accidents! For pete's sake, she is barely a preschooler and what she has learned is that when she needs help, no one will help her. Her 'provider' can use a ton of tactics if she wants to support her potty learning. It is part of the job. She also should perhaps encourage her to change her own clothes but if the child is upset (many are so embarrassed) the teacher should help her, not ignore her.

If she throws a fit over hand washing or sitting with the other kids, is it because she feels humiliated because of her accidents?

From what you described, the provider has developed an environment of combative warfare, not supportive learning.

You're not being overprotective... and your daycare provider is definitely taking "teaching independence" too far. I'm not sure which concerns me most - the fact that she treats your daughter in this way or the fact she obviously feels so comfortable with it that she doesn't even try to hide it!

I would be seriously looking for alternative daycare IMMEDIATELY for my child should this happen. Is this home daycare or a nursery setting? If it's a nursery, I'd also be complaining to a manager.

no your not over reacting she is going too far but anybody would go and put gloves on and change that poor girl not let her sit their for a half an hour in a bathroom i can see if she was 5 or 6 but not 3 years old

Not over reacting or over protective. You need to talk to the owner and if nothing is done. Time to find a new daycare.She should HAVE changed her... Why is it NOT the adults job???

Me personally I would just find a new daycare.

you shouldn't take your daughter back there. although I agree with teaching a child independence, there are different ways to do it, like for instance instead of just throwing her a pull-up and telling her to do it herself, she could have taken her in the bathroom herself and and "helped her" to put it on herself. People are so insensitive and there are way too many people working in the wrong job field.