How to make my mom kick my big brother and his wife and kid out of the house?

I feel for you!! It is so hard to be a parent. Your mom obviously loves all of her children and she is in a bad position. Your brother is a deadbeat and will continue to be one I am afraid. I am sure you mother looks at it like this... Her son is not going to take care of himself, let alone take care of a wife and child. She loves her grandchild and doesn't want to see it on the streets. If she kicks him out what will happen to the baby? The baby is helpless and it doesn't sound like your brother is going to man up and take care of his child. I admire you for caring about your family's reputation and I understand how one member of the family can ruin it for you. You have your own reputation and you should remember that you are going to be able to grow up and be your own person. You will be able to get out on your own soon. I hope you are planning on going to college. As far as you and little brother are concerned try to stay positive and keep talking to your mom. Keep praying about it. Because when it comes down to it, would you really want to see you niece/nephew on the streets with deadbeat parents??? Make the dogs stay outside, that is not negotiable. Your mom needs to set some ground rules for these moochers. She needs to stand her ground and if she can't then you are old enough to. Tell them they are not going to do drugs in your house and you demand some respect for your mom. They need to buy their own food and pay some of your mom's bills. That is ridiculous.... I hope things work out for you and your brother... You seem to be a good son!! Take up for your mom..

This might sound harsh..but it needs to b said. Like it or not, he is ur brother. And ur mother loves him as much as she loves U. Would U like it if the shoe was on the other foot and U were the 1 making the mistakes and he was the 1 begging to get U kicked outta the house? He is ur mom's son. And she is not going to make him go live in the street..no matter what U say! She loves U all the same! And just because U are "miserable" right now is a sad thing, but it isn't enough for her to turn her back on 1 of her other children! Would U like it if she did that to U? No U wouldn't! Then who are U to demand that she do that 2 ur bother?

And for you to say that she doesn't care about the environment that U and your other siblings are growing up in is a little presumptuous on ur part..don't u think? U are not her! U don't know how she really feels! She took the bag and threw it away so U and ur siblings didn't get it! That's caring right there! And U don't really know what is said between her and ur older brother and his wife! U are not there all the time. And, as a mom, I doubt she is going to say anything to him w/U and ur siblings hanging around! It's not your place to worry about adult things like that!

U have told her how U feel..and that's about all U can do! it is her decision to do what she thinks is best! U don't wanna b there....then get an after school job. Join a sport or club. Anything U can find that will better U and keep U outta the house as much as possible. Hang out w/friends. Join a youth group! Anything that will help U out (looking good on college aps) and keep U away from there.

There is nothing you can do except tell your parents how his behaviors are effecting you! Your parents are the only ones who can stop this from getting any worse. They need to do some tough love on there son and kick him out! It's no wonder why he can't keep a job his priorities are not in oder. He is getting a free ride from your parents and there are no real consequences for his actions. Social services needs to get involved. He is doing drugs and drinking. That is not a fit parent. What your parents need to see is that since he is living in there home and being caught with drugs that this can /will come back on them. If your troubled Brother continues this out of control life social services will get involved and possibility take away his child . If they believe that the child is in danger. Your parents need to tell him that he has a month to get a job and get out! They are the only ones who can do this. If they don't for whatever reason I suggest you get a part time job start saving Your money and move out! Your parents are blinded to the real problem here that there troubled son will never Move out!

I totally know what you mean. I tried to make my parents kick my little sister out because she was whoring around and embarassing our family in front of our relatives. On top of that she is not very smart at all and she almost fell for blatant online scams, much like 419, craigslist scams, etc... Only reason she didnt was because I found out about it before she sent the money and told my parents.

They didnt listen. Shes still here, dumb as ever.

I suppose what appears to be foolish to us siblings is actually wisdom on part of a parent. Forgiving another person of things that are inexcusable requires a lot of mental fortitude. Your mom is abiding by her virtues by keeping her son and not kicking him out. Clearly kicking him out would be easier, but she cant because that would make her look no better than him.

Unfortunately a parent's forgiveness is exuding and everlasting, I hope that your brother isn't taking advantage of your mother because of it. You should ask your older bro of his opinion and perhaps that will allow you to at least tolerate your misfit bro.

If you really cant stand him, you could move out when you get a job or get in to college.

You shouldn't hate his wife (your sister-in-law) and your nephew, just your brother. By what you've said, your brother is very irresponsible and selfish. Sorry to say that only your mother can have a say in who can live under her roof and who gets kicked out in the streets. Try to tell her that he is an irresponsible and selfish man who is just plain lazy and is doing nothing but getting in trouble with the police and that this is not a good enviroment for you and your little brother to live in.

It is really up to your mom to put him out of the house.I think it has to be because of the baby and were they would go.Why don't he pay bills he lives there to.Maybe let her read what you ask us.She needs to have an eye opener so she can see what your brother is doing to the family.I am sorry you are going through this it is hard.I don't see why he can't have a home of his own with his wife and baby.He is really disrespecting your family by going out getting in trouble making it harder on the family.Your mom might not know this but if your brother brings drugs in the house and someone turns him in to the cops your mom will lose her house and possibly you and your brother.It is a crime to have drugs in your home.What kinda of example is he showing you and your younger brother?He is showing you it is ok to live with mom don't pay your way,get drunk.do drugs,get married and have a baby and use mom and family,and how to be a loser.You seem to be to only one with their head on straight in this mess.Go to your mom and tell her you want to move out and you want to take your brother because she want make your older brother move out.Let her know you don't like what is going on.I can not understand why she keeps putting up with your brother.You can love someone to a point but I would have had to draw the line when he wanted to get married and move the new wife in.I only can wish you the best I hope things work out for your family.

That stinks. It is up to your mom to decide who she has in her house though. Not that that doesn’t make her a dope, it sounds like your brother really needs to grow up. She is probably trying to help him get his life in order, but he is ruining it by mooching off the family and being irresponsible. Not much you can do about it except learn how "not" to behave as an adult. Sounds like you have a pretty good head on your shoulders and realize how to be responsible.

There is nothing you can do ...it's up to your mother to change this situation. You could try talking to her and explaining how you feel and how unfair you think the whole thing with your brother is. In the end it's up to you mother.

Move with your brothers and tell her you hate her for it, that they are worth more than her and her boyfriend and I think you are next if you don't watch out, he just wants to get everything i the possession of your mother and leaver broke.

haha it's funny because i had a very similar thing happen to me before.

my sister and her boyfriend and they're child used to live with us to.

but they found this apartment that was free of charge since she was an un-wed mother.

perhaps you could try to talk to them about buying an apartment of some sort?