I SHOULDN'T CARE ABOUT HIS PAST RIGHT?

Your insecure, get a shrink

In theory we should not care about someones past, but depending on how shaddy it is that may be very hard. You need to figure out why you are worried about it so much. Are you jealous? Why does it make you angry? Get to the root of why it bothers you so much and then you can fix it. Dont get caught up in his past unless it puts you in danger or could mess with your life plan. If it is petty then let it go. We all have a past. What really matters is do you two have a future.

dont we all have a past? Thats why its called that. Dont let it anger you. Dont look for anything that you know would upset you. Dont ask questions that you dont want the answer to.

You love him that should be it. When you met him you became his future. don't become a "past" because you cant get over his. There isnt anything that we can do about it because what is done is done. I know if I could i would go back and change so much.

So let it go and let you love be what you focus on not things that you cant change.

Hello honey? The reason you feel this way is because your intuition is telling you something. LISTEN to it. It is having doubts. When you doubt, when you question, when you fume, when you can not accept...these are all indicators that something is off for you. This is a vital life lesson. Speaking from someone who has screwed up her life more times than one believing the "love" part and ignoring everything else like if I actually liked him, trusted him, felt beautiful and loved and so on. They say love is enough...but it is not. It is not! Often we mistake love for something else. I am not saying he is not 'the one" (I hate that term now)....but please just sit with yourself or some paper and write out how you feel deep in your gut. You may be insecure...but maybe not. Don't put yourself down for whatever is the truth for you. It doesn't mean he has to be evil...it just means maybe..someday maybe you'll understand what this is all about.

Take good care of you. Listen...always listen and honor your intuition.

It depends on what he did? IS HE AN AXE MURDER? Or, did he beat his previous GFs with Chineese Noodles?

If you mean he has had his share of GFs in the past, well how was he to finally find you? If he has had many sexual partners in the past, slow your jets and both get throughly tested.

The problem with a BF that has been around the block 6,000 times is that he is TRULY sleeping with everyone that the girl he slept with and that can get you so dead.

So, both get checked and if you are both clean let his past remain there.

This is the very reason why I refuse to share any intimate details of my past sex life or relationships with other people. It serves absolutely no good purpose and has no relevance in a relationship. Don't want to know? Don't ask. Problem solved. If he's telling you things you don't want to know, or bragging/complaining about past relationships, then he's in the wrong. I wouldn't tolerate it. Insecurity is never attractive, so be confident in who you are and know that you're 'the one' for him now. It does no good to worry about how you may or may not measure up to someone from the past. If you didn't meet his needs/desires, he would be with someone else.

Let me say this to you.....a person's past is who they are. History repeats itself...ever hear that saying??

You need to care - don't put your head in the sand like an ostrich and ignore what he is and what he will become. If you do....you will fall into a terrible pattern of ' But I love him....I don't care that he is a cheat and liar...I love him' His past makes you mad. Well this means you understand the drama and the likelihood his poor choices and decisions will make your life miserable.

What do you do??? You leave and not look back. I mean it.

His past what?

the fact as a child he wore his hair in a pageboy?

What ? What he do for chrisake!!! I gotta go to bed now I'm up early... how on earth an I going to sleep? Aliens was he abducted by aliens? They gave him the pageboy is that it?

It depends what he has done in the past. It's either something really bad, or you are overreacting, but without more info it's difficult to say.

It bothers you because you are immature. When you get older you realize people don't just appear, fully adult and without a past- everyone has a life before you meet them.

Because you're insecure and don't know what's up. This is marriage and divorce, not dating. So, I'm thinking you don't pay enough attention to what's around you and that's why you get so crazy.