How many people that have been adopted, as an adult still have good contact with the adoptive parents?

Like most adoptees, I can say that I had decent enough ap's. But- The King and Queen of the world could have been my ap's, and that would not have taken away the fact that I was in pain due to missing my first Mom, and that my adoption started with a huge loss for everyone involved. For me- the loss of my entire family, culture, heritage, identity, etc. For my first Mom, Dad, and rest of my f family, it was the loss of me. For my ap's, it was the loss of not being able to have their own bio child and realizing (after having their own bio child years after they adopted me) that raising a stranger's child was not even close to raising their own bio child.

Being in reunion and having regular contact with my first family proves that most adoptions do not guarantee a child a better life, only a different life. It has shown me that family is way more than the people who raise you...that genetics cannot and will not be denied. I am like my first family. I am nothing like my adoptive family- whether it is looks, intelligence, physical traits such as how I walk, talk, sit, stand, twirl my hair, political views, food likes and dislikes and other things.

I am still in contact with my ap's. My a Dad has dementia & my A Mom has emphysema does not drive. I have to to do the bulk of their care because their bio daughter is an alcoholic, and my a brother is a drug addict. That should tell you something right there.

I do not have any contact with my ap's extended family. They are not "good people". I was forced to have contact with them while growing up. I am an adult now, and choose not to be around people who skeeve me out, lol. It's refreshing. I consider it a twist on the ap bs line that they "chose" us. Well, I choose not to be around most of my a family. They were only related to me via adoption. but I did NOT adopt them.

I talk to my adad daily. He's the last of his family. There is no one else there except his 2nd wife, and she's a wonderful person. My amom died when I was 15, and I'm no longer a part of that family. I see some of my acousins fairly frequently, and we speak, but we're not family by any stretch of the imagination, and we haven't been for many, many, many years. I have an adopted brother, but we haven't lived in the same state for more than 20 years. He still comes home for holidays, so we see each other two or three times a year.

I am not adopted, but am an adoptive mom. My kids, biological and adopted, have an excellent relationship with me and their daddy, with some of them in their teens now. We have a relationship based on mutual trust, honesty and openness, love, and understanding, about all issues including adoption. My adopted children are raised knowing they were adopted, and being given all information that we know, provided it's age appropriate for them to know. Sadly foster care and foster agencies, are not entirely reliable with information and mostly it is just bits and pieces. I wish we had more to give them in that way.

I do have one who seems to struggle with it. She's at a tough age anyway right now, figuring out who she is and what her place in the world will be, and I'm sure being adopted is on her mind a lot now. Unfortunately she is the one who we know the least about, we have next to no information on her history or her biological parents. Contrast to my oldest, 15, who doesn't seem to think much of it at all, which surprises me but he genuinely seems bewildered when we ask if he needs to talk about it or if he is interested in seeking information about his biological family, who we do have quite a bit of information on. Maybe some day his curiosity will compel him to search out information but right now he seems very content with being adopted, proud even. He'll tell anyone who'll listen.

Adad died when I was 21. We had a great relationship, and I miss him terribly. Amom stopped speaking to me about 7 years ago for reasons that have nothing to do with my adoption. Before that, we were in contact several times a week despite living in different countries.

I have a wonderful relationship with my aparents and afamily. I had a great childhood, so there are no issues between myself and my aparents and they are great parents and fantastic grandparents to my children.

We live 2 suburbs away and see each other at least 3 times a week, I see most of my siblings on a weekly basis too, although my sister had to transfer interstate for her husband's job so sadly I see her less often now.

I don't like being adopted, but I have a pretty close relationship with my aparents. They're really good people and they love me. I love them. If I could have chosen parents to be my biological parents, they would have been at the top of my list. Things just didn't turn out perfectly, but that's life.

My children, were adopted by us at the ages of 8 & 5. They are now 22 & 19 - the oldest is at university& we talk everyday, & the younger one lives at home & has a job. So in answer to your question, yes we still have a good relationship now they are adult. We intend to relocate in the not too distant future, and my son has already said he's coming with us, so we can't be all bad!

The second part of your question would be for them to answer really but experience would say that the adoptive experience must have sad and stressful moments leaving long lasting insecurities and scars, but hopefully, their adoptive life has been more positive than negative.

I am still in regular contact with my parents, so that worked out well too.

I had a good relationship with my adoptive parents until they passed away. Granted I did have some issues with my amom, but she was still my mom and we delt with it. When she was dying of cancer it was not her golden child biological daughter that came to care for her. I was the one who left the state I was living in and came home to care for her 24/7 for her last 3 months.

As far as their kids are concerned, I have no relationship with them nor do I intend to

We have regular contact ---talking on the phone and visiting in person. I'm always here for her and she for me. Yrs a go when she was a teenager I had fell and hurt my back --she insisted I sleep in her bed and she slept at the foot of the bed and I remember every time I woke up she was on her feet to see if she could get me something or help in any way.

At the darkest times in her live she has called and came home for support and assurances and together we wok through the loss.

I have a good relationship with my afamily. I had bad experiences as an adopted child. I also had good experiences. I'm not entirely certain what you are trying to get at here.

Adopted Dad died when I was a kid

Adopted Mum lives in the same street and we visit weekly when she's not travelling the globe - she's a very active senior :)

I grew up in a good family, but grieved my for original family my whole life so it was a good AND a bad 'experience'. Who honestly wants to lose their family and heredity despite landing in a wonderful substitute family, really, sersly

ETA: Yeah De I too, know who my family is! BOTH of 'em LOL my aMum is a diamond and shows not one iota of the insecurites played out by the yahoos on here ROTFLOL

ps Because I hate adoption and searched for my natural family, people assume I hate my adoptive parents or that they were somehow. Thats such BS.

In fact my son is named after my late adoptive father - yup must've really hated him, huh pppfffftttt