I don't love his daughter, I want to leave..help!?

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It's been 4 years. I don't love his daughter like my own.(she's 5, i have two one older one younger) I love her, just not in love with her like I am with him. Thing is, we use to be super close, then drama happened. Now i'm finding it SUPER hard to forgive and forget. I spent 3 years of hell with him and all of his issues(to many to tell). 

Thing is, If i feel i may not be able to love his daughter like i use to. I don't like being around her as much. I feel bad for her that she has to be bounced back and forth and different culture, but it's almost as if him and her represents all the drama i been through. I hate that i'm so stubborn, but I've tried but my heart just won't open. I'm asking for suggestions, not saying how BAD i am cause you don't know the HALF of it!!!! :P I want to leave so many times. I LOVE HIM, but UGH!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

feel better now?

Aussie · Answer

He may have issues, and you may be tired of them. But to take them out on a five year old child does not justify your reaction.
If you don't want to be there anymore, then LEAVE.

Don't use the fact that you love him to screw up his daughter's life. Despite the 'issues' surrounding your involvement with him, and his daughter, she is, and should be his, and your priority. Ensure you ease out of their lives with minimal damage.

Act like an adult. You have your own children. Imagine how this situation might impact on them! If you don't care about his child, then imagine and empathise through your own children's eyes.

Anonymous · Answer

and you're about to bring a 4'th child into that drama? why?
  if he's mexican you'll be on your 8'th child in no time and look like you're 60.
make a sensible decision for your life.

Carole H · Answer

if the child is 5 she is probably taking it hard not knowing whats going on if you really want to leave just pack your stuff and leave

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I don't love his daughter, I want to leave..help!?

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