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Andrea
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Andrea asked in Family & RelationshipsWeddings · 1 decade ago

I have a maid of honor/bridesmaid predicament! Advice please.?

My parents have been best friends with my best friends parents since age 12. My best friend and I have been neighbors since birth and are a month apart in age. We grew up together. They are a well-known and well-off family. She has lost a lot of weight and is very attractive (like the rest of her family) We have grown apart but still talk occasionally. She is my hairdresser. She also just got married randomly, and is expecting a baby. (The baby will be several months old by the time I'm married so pregnancy won't be a problem) I have always always planned on her being my maid of honor until we've grown apart recently and her/her family have gotten a bit snobby. I realize I don't have to choose her, but there would be a 3 way tie for my second option. I am concerned that her snobbiness would interfere, as I am a really laid back person. What would you do? What's your advice?

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  • BeatriceBatten
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
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    Just ask them all to be bridesmaids, since it doesn't appear that you have an absolute best friend (which is fine!). You don't need a Maid of Honor at all. Anyone can sign the license, hold your bouquet, stand next to you in the photos and give a toast ... try splitting up those duties between them.

    Don't worry about what'll happen with a possible shower and bachelorette party. If someone wants to throw them for you, then someone will take care of it. If nobody wants to throw them then you won't get them, and you can't ask for them ... but I am betting that someone organizes them. Say nothing about these things and just wait to see what happens.

  • Jenny Lynne
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Is the snobby person in the three way tie??? Do not ask her, it is already apparent that her presence would take away from your wedding. Out of the three, choose the one you are closest to to be MOH. If there is no way you can decide, just put their names in a basket and first one picked is MOH. This may sound horrible, but, if you cannot honestly pick out one for some reason to be MOH, then the decision is definetly up in the air. Do not say anything to snobby one, you do not have to explain yourself to her, this would give her the opening to say something about your choice. She may get mad at you, but, it is a choice only you can make, is it worth it to ruin your day or do you want to take a chance on her?? If she gets mad, just change hairdressers. You can always tell her you didn't want to bother with her having a new baby, but present it as a "done deal" have your picks lined up and already have them fitted for the dresses, so there is no way she can push her way in. Sorry, not a good answer.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I would say make her a bridesmaid and have someone else be the MOH.

  • jenilynn
    1 decade ago

    id do whatever you feel its your day and theirs no reason why you should have to be stressed on your wedding day and during the planning good luck..

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