MARITAL SAGA....To clarify....Yes, I am gullible about my husband?

Count me in , too. I have had it with my current relationship also. My divorce sucked at first. But, then I realized how free i was and how much I have to give to the right woman. I have bent over backwards and done so much with so little done in return. All I asked was for her to accept my love and for her to love me in return. She does not and cannot give me her true love and devotion. I give, give, give and get no love or affection in return. I know and completely understand your situation. It sucks.

We have to stand up for ourselves and be strong. WE'RE NOT GONNA TAKE IT ANY MORE!!!

I stopped being a victim a LONG time ago, so I do not really need a support group.

I guess I would make an appointment with a good attorney for some guidance on handing the legal aspects of your situation. I'm sure you are not the first. Your hubby can run, but he cannot outrun his legal obligations without causing himself a lot of trouble, now and in the future. You still have to make your own decisions, but it is best to have good information upon which to base them.

Then you need to decide what YOU want to do. If you do not want any part of the tenant stuff, you need to find out your obligations and the next steps into getting out of this mess. and get a divorce. My guess would be to put everything up for sale and hope you don't lose your azz.

As a widow myself, I've found that the best way to avoid all the stress of not knowing what to do is to start asking questions of people in a position to know, or who can direct you to someone who does. Friends and relatives rarely know, either. You still have to make your own decisions, but at least you are making them on the basis of good information.

I had to go back and read your previous posts.....(and your avatar post)

You have all this psych background and yet you cannot control your OWN emotional condition? You "feel" wounded and hurt and abandoned and all such things because of what another person said or did to you?

One - you do not know how to establish proper boundaries around your own self. This is foolishness. You did, in fact, set yourself up for a great wounding. And you got it.

(Boundaries by Cloud / Townsend)

Two - In love, you act the classic CODEPENDENT. You allow other people to manipulate and control your emotions with their Words, Actions and Behaviors. What are YOU missing in your life that you feel the need to do this to yourself?

Three - You want to START getting a backbone now? Gee - this is what you were supposed to develop when you were 18 yo. Kinda late for that isn't it? What happened in your childhood that you could not develop into an emotionally stable person at least out of college?

Yeah - hard life. And you made all the choices yourself.

the world is full of know it alls as you can see, do what your heart tells you to do, sometimes we are all alone and have to decide for ourselves as what has to be done, i have made up my mind to stay alone, oh yes i do miss being with a woman, but ill get over it, the sadness of being alone is hard to take at times, but the hurt we have to go through with seems like it last forever when we allow another person to enter our lives, there is an old saying that time heals all, well it may do just that, but it takes a long time in some cases, and in some ,i wonder if it really does heal them, stand tall sweetie and have faith, its the only thing that will get you through it all

You can't be a victim unless you let yourself be a victim.

Geez, let him run away... he's saving you from giving him the boot.

count me in too!!

Don't listen to Salacious crumb - he's a j- Rk. He never has anything good to say.

Have you noticed it's the women who understand you?

You go girl! And hold your head up high! Proud of you!

You aren't a rare breed; you always got company.

I could promise to do you proper if you would promise to shut up for 3 or 4 hours after.

count me in